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Girls are always too sensitive about the "ex" stuff. I get it if he is comparing good qualities, but in this case he is saying things that he DIDN'T like about her. Sort of a hint to you.
I've done similar things, mentioned things I didn't like about my ex, slyly, hoping current girl would get the hint, I was not reminiscing about the ex.
Whether you like it or not, current bf/gf will always be compared to an ex. Whether person voices it or not, thats how we naturally make decisions if we like the current person, based upon how they compare to older ones.
Girls are always too sensitive about the "ex" stuff. I get it if he is comparing good qualities, but in this case he is saying things that he DIDN'T like about her. Sort of a hint to you.
I've done similar things, mentioned things I didn't like about my ex, slyly, hoping current girl would get the hint, I was not reminiscing about the ex.
Whether you like it or not, current bf/gf will always be compared to an ex. Whether person voices it or not, thats how we naturally make decisions if we like the current person, based upon how they compare to older ones.
I see it now. Yeah he mentioned her on certain past things but I noticed it's only bad things...
One time, we were on his bed watching a movie, I wanted to heat up leftovers food we had earlier. So I went to get up to do it...
he commented, 'You're not lazy like 'ex name', she makes me do every little thing' ...I looked and him and was like 'HAH'..then went to do my thing.
This was in the beginning when we first started hanging out..and getting to know each other.
So with that, I'm not sure how to feel about this. Him & I are actually church buddies before we started liking each other...so I feel like I have the advantage but at the same time I feel like he is feeling too 'jerky' about his ex not being there for him. I know he still cares for her...but at the same time...he shouldn't be like this? I don't know...
I must add that we have known each for a year. Been talking for a month. Been on a few lunches and one real date.
If the conversations about her continue, don't waste your time, hes not over his ex.
So I guess things are going well between us ever since my previous post..
But then the case of the ex keeps coming up and I feel like I'm being compared...
Okay so on the car ride home, we were talking about the holidays. Thanksgiving was the first one. I told him my family don't usually do anything on that day because we have such a small family that it's not a big deal.
him: You can come over to my house. We have turkey, mash potatoes and so on...
me: How many people are usually there?
And he said he has a small family too. He started naming people and counting them...and he added '14, 15 people if you come' ...Is that an invite for me? We're not even official. I smiled at that..
Then he mentioned that his ex never came to any of them. Three years of being together and she didn't want to attend any of his family events. At least that's what he made it seem like.
me: did she have plans with her own family?
him: no
I asked him if she was ever close to his family and he said no...and that she was just known as 'the girlfriend'.
him: they knew who she is, she just didn't really talk to them.
Subject of Christmas mass came up, and he mentioned that...
him: I told her it's an important day to my religion (Catholic) but she still didn't want to come. It's christmas and I sat alone!
..................
So with that, I'm not sure how to feel about this. Him & I are actually church buddies before we started liking each other...so I feel like I have the advantage but at the same time I feel like he is feeling too 'jerky' about his ex not being there for him. I know he still cares for her...but at the same time...he shouldn't be like this? I don't know...
I must add that we have known each for a year. Been talking for a month. Been on a few lunches and one real date.
You Bronx women wouldnt be happy even ya could do 80mph down Castle Hill Avenue!!!!!!!!!!!
Girls are always too sensitive about the "ex" stuff. I get it if he is comparing good qualities, but in this case he is saying things that he DIDN'T like about her. Sort of a hint to you.
If the conversations about her continue, don't waste your time, hes not over his ex.
Yes, you're right about that.
From the positive feedbacks, I will give it a bit more time before I kick him to the curb if anything else does happen. lol he's quite a good guy I can tell...I was just a bit worried.
THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR THE FEEDBACK!! I really appreciate it!!
Oh this is the rebound relationship from church, right?
Yes, you got that right. Hopefully it has evolved from just being a 'rebound' to mutual liking!
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