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I was with him after church. We went for a small lunch then back to his place to nap a bit before we both went to work. Well, I kinda regret snooping a bit but he was sleeping......Anyways, a few days ago he text his ex back saying 'i still have feelings for you but it's not the same anymore. cuz of what u did. idk what we are anymore'. I would assume that she told him something about wanting him back?
I was with him after church. We went for a small lunch then back to his place to nap a bit before we both went to work. Well, I kinda regret snooping a bit but he was sleeping......Anyways, a few days ago he text his ex back saying 'i still have feelings for you but it's not the same anymore. cuz of what u did. idk what we are anymore'. I would assume that she told him something about wanting him back?
Is this bad?
Their relationship isn't over. The question is, what do you think?
I see it now. Yeah he mentioned her on certain past things but I noticed it's only bad things...
One time, we were on his bed watching a movie, I wanted to heat up leftovers food we had earlier. So I went to get up to do it...
he commented, 'You're not lazy like 'ex name', she makes me do every little thing' ...I looked and him and was like 'HAH'..then went to do my thing.
This was in the beginning when we first started hanging out..and getting to know each other.
I don't think it's polite for a man or woman to give a backhanded compliment aimed towards someone whose status you maybe replacing. If it were me, I would definitely be cautious. A gentleman for instance would never talk bad about a past relationship let alone manipulate anyone into doing his bidding by giving a backhanded compliment.
I was with him after church. We went for a small lunch then back to his place to nap a bit before we both went to work. Well, I kinda regret snooping a bit but he was sleeping......Anyways, a few days ago he text his ex back saying 'i still have feelings for you but it's not the same anymore. cuz of what u did. idk what we are anymore'. I would assume that she told him something about wanting him back?
Is this bad?
Put the brakes on before you get in deeper than you already are. IMO you are a distraction for him while those two are "figuring out" where they are. If you keep going how you are going odds are he will probably get back with her, you will probably get hurt. Even if he doesn't get back with her, it doesn't look like he is emotionally available for any relationship at the moment.
Put the brakes on before you get in deeper than you already are. IMO you are a distraction for him while those two are "figuring out" where they are. If you keep going how you are going odds are he will probably get back with her, you will probably get hurt. Even if he doesn't get back with her, it doesn't look like he is emotionally available for any relationship at the moment.
You're right. I am not ready for a relationship with him or anyone else for that matter right now. But if I were to like someone, I would expect it to have a bit of direction with just the two of us. Is that really too much to ask? I know it's not his fault for still being on his ex but I didn't expect to fall for him WHILE I was comforting him. The more I think about it, the more I want to tell him to stop talking to me until he figures it out. I don't mind 'waiting' for him nor do I mind him going back to his ex. But I'm the kind of person to have a PLAN. But then again, I somehow feels like it's too early to expect such a thing when he only admitted he liked me a few weeks ago...
Put the brakes on before you get in deeper than you already are. IMO you are a distraction for him while those two are "figuring out" where they are. If you keep going how you are going odds are he will probably get back with her, you will probably get hurt. Even if he doesn't get back with her, it doesn't look like he is emotionally availablefor any relationship at the moment.
I just recently broke up with my ex also. I need time, so does he. Does it excuse his behavior? Or is it still iffy?
Taking time to regroup after a break up is wise. As far as the bolded above...ultimately, only you would know what the answer to this, is. It would be presumptuous of me to say otherwise... My previous post was just MY pov.
I just recently broke up with my ex also. I need time, so does he. Does it excuse his behavior? Or is it still iffy?
Sounds like you both need time to recover from your previous relationships.
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If it were me, I would definitely be cautious. A gentleman for instance would never talk bad about a past relationship let alone manipulate anyone into doing his bidding by giving a backhanded compliment.
My previous post was just MY pov.
