girls making the move? (dating, women, love, husband)
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If a guy asked me out, and I have no idea if the date went well or not (some fun moments, many awkward ones), but the most awkward moment was the end when he stopped at my house and was immediately like "fun hanging out see you around" so I thought that just meant bye never going to call so I said "fun hanging out drive safely" really fast and practically ran out the car (awkward, I know).
So I was expecting never to hear from the guy again, but three days later he sends me a funny vid and we talk a little online, but then he becomes less responsive.
There were a few times before where he brought up that he felt like I didn't like him very much (but I'm just shy).
So now I am confused, is he not making a move because he thinks I don't like him and should I make the move and nonchalantly ask if he wants to hang out sometime, or is this always a turn off for guys and the only thing I can do is see if he will make a move?
You have no choice but to make a move if you're interested in something more. You may be genuinely shy, but he thinks you're not interested. Acting aloof(whether intentionally or not) does not work if you're female.
If you're interested, you're going to have to make some type of move.
You have no choice but to make a move if you're interested in something more. You may be genuinely shy, but he thinks you're not interested. Acting aloof(whether intentionally or not) does not work if you're female.
If you're interested, you're going to have to make some type of move.
This ^ . Good luck to you!
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So now I am confused, is he not making a move because he thinks I don't like him and should I make the move and nonchalantly ask if he wants to hang out sometime, or is this always a turn off for guys and the only thing I can do is see if he will make a move?
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I see no problem with doing this. His response will be indicative of where the 'relationship' is going. This will answer the question in red and I definitely would not suggest doing the option in green.
Tell him you like him. You want to hang out. Call him. LET HIM KNOW!!!
I myself like to know if a guy is interested or not. Not many like guessing games. You have to overcome the fear.
I agree. When I was still dating, I would almost always ask a guy out ( including my husband now ). Many times, I actually found that guys were actually shy and afraid of rejection, so they didn't want to ask me out, but loved it when I asked them out. Good Luck!!!
I agree. When I was still dating, I would almost always ask a guy out ( including my husband now ). Many times, I actually found that guys were actually shy and afraid of rejection, so they didn't want to ask me out, but loved it when I asked them out. Good Luck!!!
I'm by no means shy and I go after women, but IS nice to not have to always initiate, I always think its cool if a girl asks me out!!
There's no telling how many potential relationships have fizzled before even starting because of this sort of thing. The end of just about every first date(and usually first few dates) is a bit awkward. You don't really know the person yet and you have no idea whether they really like you or not. I think the few days after the first date is more awkward than the lead up to the date and the date itself.
If I was the guy and was interested in you I would be so relieved if you were to make the next move. Guys have to strike a fine balance to show interest without appearing desperate or in a rush to get into a relationship. That being said, a lot of guys expect women to meet them halfway and give an indication that they are interested. Being the pursuer 99% of the time is no fun and most guys will not tolerate it nowadays when there are plenty of women willing to do at least some of the pursuing. You don't have to take the lead in the relationship but you should try being an active participant in it. Guys want companions, not pets.
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