im not having anymore kids with my husband... (wife, married, love)
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When I was younger I always wanted a houseful of kids to love when I got married. And now with the dh I have him and I only have one together and I don't want anymore with him. So I'm not having anymore and I'm beginning to get sad and depressed. He's a good father but not a good provider, and I refuse to support my kids and him for the rest of my life.
So as much as I don't want to say this. But sadly I'm done having kids.
Last edited by luvmykids08_10; 11-21-2011 at 07:46 PM..
When I was younger I always wanted a houseful of kids to love when I got married. And now with the dh I have him and I only have one together and I don't want anymore with him. So I'm not having anymore and I'm beginning to get sad and depressed. He's a good father but not a good provider, and I refuse to support m kids and him for the rest of my life.
So as much as I don't want to say this. But sadly I'm done having kids.
Good for you, to use your head in this matter.
Have you thought of leaving him?
Is he really lacking ambition at work, or cannot hold a job, or what?
I mean, if you want to stay with him, can he be retrained?
My husband and I elected not to have children. We are now living very well in retirement while others we worked with are still struggling. My ex manager and his wife did the same.
Having kids is not just about love - or rather 'love' should include saving for their education in an increasingly competitive environment, and 'love' should not find you possibly crippled from arthritis and in pain and still trying to work, maybe being let go because of it.
When in doubt do not have more, better safe than sorry.
Her husband has a crappy job. She supports kiddo and husband. She is depressed because she wants another, but due to expenses she isn't.
oh okay, thanks.....
@OP - the only line that stands out to me is the one about "refusing to support him and the kids." Were you not aware of his financial situation before getting hitched? Why is this suddenly a revelation?
When I was younger I always wanted a houseful of kids to love when I got married. And now with the dh I have him and I only have one together and I don't want anymore with him. So I'm not having anymore and I'm beginning to get sad and depressed. He's a good father but not a good provider, and I refuse to support my kids and him for the rest of my life.
So as much as I don't want to say this. But sadly I'm done having kids.
It's never a good idea to have kids with someone you don't respect.
@OP - the only line that stands out to me is the one about "refusing to support him and the kids." Were you not aware of his financial situation before getting hitched? Why is this suddenly a revelation?
He didn't change till AFTER we said "I do". We we're both working and saving and then we got married, I got a better paying job, and he started doing things to intentionally get him fired. He wont work a full-time job.
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Could you edit your post so it can be easily understood or can someone please interpret it to me...?
