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I know this has probably been discussed over and over on this forum. Is there any sort of work-around if your partner (bf/gf) is clingy? It seems like this would be a sensitive topic to bring up for conversation. Anyone have an effective approach for dealing with what is most often a very unwelcome relationship feature?
That's a tough one. It helps if they have some sort of healthy social life outside of the relationship and some interests to keep them involved in other activities. Clingy people are often insecure and it can be suffocating. Try to have a talk with him/her and see if you can reach some sort of resolution or compromise.
That's a tough one. It helps if they have some sort of healthy social life outside of the relationship and some interests to keep them involved in other activities. Clingy people are often insecure and it can be suffocating. Try to have a talk with him/her and see if you can reach some sort of resolution or compromise.
It can erode the relationship, Esp in the beginning. The individuals should have their own interests, And friends. The relationship should enhance the overall lives of the couple, both together and in their individual pursuits. Because being in a healthy relationship does just this. That energy and zest for life. One should hopefully feel this anyway, But people are meant to be together, I think.
What kind of clinginess are we talking about, here? Is this constant checking in (by text or phone) and general mistrust and insecurity, or is it that the two people just aren't compatible in their displays of affection (e.g., she wants a hug and kiss whenever the two of them arrive and leave, and he's not touchy-feely.)
What kind of clinginess are we talking about, here? Is this constant checking in (by text or phone) and general mistrust and insecurity, or is it that the two people just aren't compatible in their displays of affection (e.g., she wants a hug and kiss whenever the two of them arrive and leave, and he's not touchy-feely.)
The general mistrust and insecurity and always asking if "we are alright". Sometimes it will come out of nowhere. We will be having a normal conversation and she'll ask "are we alright?" It annoys me to have to assure her this every other day. I would understand her curiosity if our relationship was on the rocks, but it isn't.
I have someone in my life (not spouse) who constantly asks if I'm "Okay" or "is everything all right?" to the point of being annoying. I finally told her to stop asking me that and if I wasn't all right, I'd let her know! I actually think it became a bad conversational habit on her part. (Look at me being so caring... bleh!)
The only effective way to deal with it is to be 100% honest.
That doesn't mean confrontational, you should be sympathetic to your partner's wants and needs, as they should in return.
If you have an over-clingy partner and it annoys you, then you have to set some boundaries. If not, the relationship is surely doomed, as resentment from you starts to build, and they see your withdrawal from physical contact as "falling out of love".
If we can explain to the other person how we feel, this can be avoided. Although it may involve some compromise !
I have someone in my life (not spouse) who constantly asks if I'm "Okay" or "is everything all right?" to the point of being annoying. I finally told her to stop asking me that and if I wasn't all right, I'd let her know! I actually think it became a bad conversational habit on her part. (Look at me being so caring... bleh!)
That IS annoying!
I told somebody in a store last night "didn't you just ask me a few minutes ago?" and she said "oh, just checking"! Leave me the hell alone! It was in DSW. Heck, I can’t cover one row of shoes between 2 questions in a row! Of course, it happens quite often in other places, too.
I have someone in my life (not spouse) who constantly asks if I'm "Okay" or "is everything all right?" to the point of being annoying. I finally told her to stop asking me that and if I wasn't all right, I'd let her know! I actually think it became a bad conversational habit on her part. (Look at me being so caring... bleh!)
Sounds exactly like my gf.
But in her case, I think the constant inquiries are a result of her being insecure. I feel like from the beginning she has been trying too hard to make this relationship work out. I think a lot of the blame goes to the "let's get married and pop out kids before 30" philosophy. Is this a common desire among women? Is there a fear that evolves in your mid-20s of not being settled down with a loving husband and children by the ripe old age of 30?
I have someone in my life (not spouse) who constantly asks if I'm "Okay" or "is everything all right?" to the point of being annoying. I finally told her to stop asking me that and if I wasn't all right, I'd let her know! I actually think it became a bad conversational habit on her part. (Look at me being so caring... bleh!)
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Leave me the hell alone!
It was in DSW. Heck, I can’t cover one row of shoes between 2 questions in a row! Of course, it happens quite often in other places, too.
