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Old 11-21-2011, 09:33 PM
 
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So this woman divorced her husband when

1.the husband was gambling behind her back and took over $10,000 from their joint bank account and lost it.( they both make over 100k a year, )

2. their daughter was just 1 year old.

3. the husband was very well in love with her, had treated her well, and was a devoting father. He begged her not to leave and promised he would change.( he did, he's never been a regular gambler)

4. she was the one wearing pants in the family.

She insisted on divorcing him, the husband was devistated. Shortly after the divorce, she started dating some guy seriouly that she met while still married.

What is your input about the situation and the woman? Thanks!
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Old 11-21-2011, 09:41 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Um what do you want? She was pissed at him for wasting the money. They were getting a divorce and she found a man. Many do this.
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Old 11-21-2011, 09:46 PM
 
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Um what do you want? She was pissed at him for wasting the money. They were getting a divorce and she found a man. Many do this.
I don't think too many women will divorce the husband when there's one not-so-major-thing going wrong.
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Old 11-21-2011, 09:48 PM
 
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It's like watching an episode of dumb and dumber.
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Old 11-21-2011, 09:50 PM
 
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It's like watching an episode of dumb and dumber.
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Old 11-21-2011, 09:50 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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She divorced him, her choice and free to start a new relationship.

The devastated ex could throw a different spin here but they'd only be assumptions.

Gambling joint funds without her knowledge may have been the last straw, theres always two sides to the story.
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Old 11-21-2011, 09:55 PM
 
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To each his own. It's ok to spend/waste $10K on gambling but not ok for her to not tolerate it? If my DH wasted that kind of money I'd be highly (extremely) doubtful of his self-control. If he could waste that kind of money on gambling, what else might he do if given the opportunity? Everyone makes mistakes but $10K is a decent chunk of change.

That aside, I was raised around every type of addict imaginable so my tolerance for said crap is pretty low. I'm also very money-oriented (call me shallow, at least I'm honest ) because I was intent on not having a life similar to my childhood; I succeeded. No one goes without here and we each have our toys and a very nice home.....$10K on gambling? Not happening on my watch.

How and when she met her new guy, at this point anyway, is none of the ex's business (you must be the now ex-husband?). My DH and I met 18 years ago while we both still legally married to other people and going through divorces. We weren't the cause of each others' divorces, just met during. Maybe the wife in your situation was looking for an excuse to get away from the gambling husband? Personally, the gambling would have been enough for me....and I'd have taken the 1yo with me and not looked back.

What does wearing the pants have to do with this? Is that the excuse for gambling away savings? Wife "wears the pants" so husband asserts his control by wasting hard-earned money? That's a good one....
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Old 11-21-2011, 10:00 PM
 
Location: Northern Wisconsin
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My guess is that the gambling was just a justification for divorce, not the reason. I'd bet she was already thinking divorce, maybe cause of this other guy. Typically, women and men who sincerely love their spouse will put up with a fair amount of misbehavior before calling it quits.
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Old 11-21-2011, 10:01 PM
 
Location: Southwest France
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I say good for her! I'm sure a huge point that was missing in the OP was the lies that usually accompany that sort of addiction. Stealing money from your wife & infant to gamble? B$!
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Old 11-21-2011, 10:02 PM
 
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So this woman divorced her husband when

1.the husband was gambling behind her back and took over $10,000 from their joint bank account and lost it.( they both make over 100k a year, )

2. their daughter was just 1 year old.

3. the husband was very well in love with her, had treated her well, and was a devoting father. He begged her not to leave and promised he would change.( he did, he's never been a regular gambler)

4. she was the one wearing pants in the family.

She insisted on divorcing him, the husband was devistated. Shortly after the divorce, she started dating some guy seriouly that she met while still married.

What is your input about the situation and the woman? Thanks!
It doesn't sound like she had much of a marriage or wanted to forgive him for gambling when she was cheating on him.

Poor child though. I hope that now that the parents are divorced they'll put rancor aside and do what's best for the child.
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