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There are some to clearly take child raising beyond something unhealthy.
The commitment I made when we brought our children into the world is greater then ALL others! But I think the way you view "forsake" and wedding vows in general is a tad creepy! I do agree that some people (helicopter parents) do take it to an unhealthy level leaving adult children incapable of making it on their own...and that is just as wrong as neglect!
I've said it before in prior posts and I'll say it again, my relationship with my children's father comes first. I look good for him, I love him and I will be with him long after the kids are grown and gone. The children do not come first. As a result we have just celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary yesterday, our children ages 20, 14 and 9 are very well adjusted, very well behaved loving kids who have never needed to be spanked. The20 year old is in college, works part time and pays her own way through college. Bought her own car with her own money is an independent young woman who loves her father and is looking for a young man that will treat her the way she sees her father treat her mother, with love, dignity and respect. Our children see that our marriage comes first and is an eternal thing that has its ups and downs. Our children know that we are humans and we make mistakes, we own up to them and when needed ask forgiveness of those that we hurt.
Our children see us, their parents as two people that are madly in love, even after 26 years of knowing each other ( I was 15 he was 18 when we met) we kiss and hug in front of them and we hold hands every where we go. As a result, my boys (14 and 9) hold MY hand when out for walks, at church or at the movies. They bring me breakfast in bed and practically fight each other to serve me (like they've seen their father do many times). They have a wonderful role model, their father and they know their place. They know they are loved, but mom and dad come first, and that is the way they will be when they get married as well.
I've said it before in prior posts and I'll say it again, my relationship with my children's father comes first. I look good for him, I love him and I will be with him long after the kids are grown and gone. The children do not come first. As a result we have just celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary yesterday, our children ages 20, 14 and 9 are very well adjusted, very well behaved loving kids who have never needed to be spanked. The20 year old is in college, works part time and pays her own way through college. Bought her own car with her own money is an independent young woman who loves her father and is looking for a young man that will treat her the way she sees her father treat her mother, with love, dignity and respect. Our children see that our marriage comes first and is an eternal thing that has its ups and downs. Our children know that we are humans and we make mistakes, we own up to them and when needed ask forgiveness of those that we hurt.
Our children see us, their parents as two people that are madly in love, even after 26 years of knowing each other ( I was 15 he was 18 when we met) we kiss and hug in front of them and we hold hands every where we go. As a result, my boys (14 and 9) hold MY hand when out for walks, at church or at the movies. They bring me breakfast in bed and practically fight each other to serve me (like they've seen their father do many times). They have a wonderful role model, their father and they know their place. They know they are loved, but mom and dad come first, and that is the way they will be when they get married as well.
EXACTLY
Thank you for painting the picture some here can't quite see
Your success is typical of folks who "put their spouse/marriage first".
I've said it before in prior posts and I'll say it again, my relationship with my children's father comes first. I look good for him, I love him and I will be with him long after the kids are grown and gone. The children do not come first. As a result we have just celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary yesterday, our children ages 20, 14 and 9 are very well adjusted, very well behaved loving kids who have never needed to be spanked. The20 year old is in college, works part time and pays her own way through college. Bought her own car with her own money is an independent young woman who loves her father and is looking for a young man that will treat her the way she sees her father treat her mother, with love, dignity and respect. Our children see that our marriage comes first and is an eternal thing that has its ups and downs. Our children know that we are humans and we make mistakes, we own up to them and when needed ask forgiveness of those that we hurt.
Our children see us, their parents as two people that are madly in love, even after 26 years of knowing each other ( I was 15 he was 18 when we met) we kiss and hug in front of them and we hold hands every where we go. As a result, my boys (14 and 9) hold MY hand when out for walks, at church or at the movies. They bring me breakfast in bed and practically fight each other to serve me (like they've seen their father do many times). They have a wonderful role model, their father and they know their place. They know they are loved, but mom and dad come first, and that is the way they will be when they get married as well.
I've said it before in prior posts and I'll say it again, my relationship with my children's father comes first. I look good for him, I love him and I will be with him long after the kids are grown and gone. The children do not come first. As a result we have just celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary yesterday, our children ages 20, 14 and 9 are very well adjusted, very well behaved loving kids who have never needed to be spanked. The20 year old is in college, works part time and pays her own way through college. Bought her own car with her own money is an independent young woman who loves her father and is looking for a young man that will treat her the way she sees her father treat her mother, with love, dignity and respect. Our children see that our marriage comes first and is an eternal thing that has its ups and downs. Our children know that we are humans and we make mistakes, we own up to them and when needed ask forgiveness of those that we hurt.
Our children see us, their parents as two people that are madly in love, even after 26 years of knowing each other ( I was 15 he was 18 when we met) we kiss and hug in front of them and we hold hands every where we go. As a result, my boys (14 and 9) hold MY hand when out for walks, at church or at the movies. They bring me breakfast in bed and practically fight each other to serve me (like they've seen their father do many times). They have a wonderful role model, their father and they know their place. They know they are loved, but mom and dad come first, and that is the way they will be when they get married as well.
Great post!
Here's how I've always thought of it. A child's NEEDS come first. Wants can wait. Get in line and take a number!
I've said it before in prior posts and I'll say it again, my relationship with my children's father comes first. I look good for him, I love him and I will be with him long after the kids are grown and gone. The children do not come first. As a result we have just celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary yesterday, our children ages 20, 14 and 9 are very well adjusted, very well behaved loving kids who have never needed to be spanked. The20 year old is in college, works part time and pays her own way through college. Bought her own car with her own money is an independent young woman who loves her father and is looking for a young man that will treat her the way she sees her father treat her mother, with love, dignity and respect. Our children see that our marriage comes first and is an eternal thing that has its ups and downs. Our children know that we are humans and we make mistakes, we own up to them and when needed ask forgiveness of those that we hurt.
Our children see us, their parents as two people that are madly in love, even after 26 years of knowing each other ( I was 15 he was 18 when we met) we kiss and hug in front of them and we hold hands every where we go. As a result, my boys (14 and 9) hold MY hand when out for walks, at church or at the movies. They bring me breakfast in bed and practically fight each other to serve me (like they've seen their father do many times). They have a wonderful role model, their father and they know their place. They know they are loved, but mom and dad come first, and that is the way they will be when they get married as well.
I've said it before in prior posts and I'll say it again, my relationship with my children's father comes first. I look good for him, I love him and I will be with him long after the kids are grown and gone. The children do not come first. As a result we have just celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary yesterday, our children ages 20, 14 and 9 are very well adjusted, very well behaved loving kids who have never needed to be spanked. The20 year old is in college, works part time and pays her own way through college. Bought her own car with her own money is an independent young woman who loves her father and is looking for a young man that will treat her the way she sees her father treat her mother, with love, dignity and respect. Our children see that our marriage comes first and is an eternal thing that has its ups and downs. Our children know that we are humans and we make mistakes, we own up to them and when needed ask forgiveness of those that we hurt.
Our children see us, their parents as two people that are madly in love, even after 26 years of knowing each other ( I was 15 he was 18 when we met) we kiss and hug in front of them and we hold hands every where we go. As a result, my boys (14 and 9) hold MY hand when out for walks, at church or at the movies. They bring me breakfast in bed and practically fight each other to serve me (like they've seen their father do many times). They have a wonderful role model, their father and they know their place. They know they are loved, but mom and dad come first, and that is the way they will be when they get married as well.
Well they're obviously doing something right to be so happy after 26 years...
There are two sides to every story.
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! I do agree that some people (helicopter parents) do take it to an unhealthy level leaving adult children incapable of making it on their own...and that is just as wrong as neglect!
