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I actually learned that I am an exception to the rule, but it came from a few years of thinking I was normal.
I had mostly male friends growing up, and I'm a very dominant person myself. I was also raised mostly by gay men ^_^
It wasn't until I got to college that I realized how differently my relationships functioned from those around me. I had my first real female friends; not friendly colleagues, but actual friends. And I began to see how different I was. Honestly I would have made a better man, but who knows. I had no desire to possess someone, monogamy to me has always been up for debate and really... I just never looked for emotional support in a relationship. I've always had the monopoly on mental and emotional stability.
It wasn't until I met my husband that things made more sense with respect to what most people look for in a relationship. I was never looking for security, I was never "needing" something and I simply never thought someone else would be something to me I myself was not already.
Well, after a handful of pathetic attempts I learned that it's a waste of time to try to "win someone over" if they aren't interested in you to begin with. I'm sure I ended up in the "creep zone" by just being what I thought was nice, even when taking my motives into account. That movie crap is just that, crap.
I also realized that the old adage "Don't waste your time on someone unwilling to waste their time on you." is truly one of the wisest quotes about relationships.
This was hard for me to learn; but it is definitely something I learned....
*Never make someone a priority when all you are is only an option*
Won't make that mistake again
Well, after a handful of pathetic attempts I learned that it's a waste of time to try to "win someone over" if they aren't interested in you to begin with. I'm sure I ended up in the "creep zone" by just being what I thought was nice, even when taking my motives into account. That movie crap is just that, crap.
I also realized that the old adage "Don't waste your time on someone unwilling to waste their time on you." is truly one of the wisest quotes about relationships.
The longer I live the more I learn that I actually am an exception to the rule. That's not to say that if I choose certain actions they won't have the expected consequences, of course. I'm not an exception in that way. But I'm routinely discovering that I'm just an oddball in a lot of ways, and what seems to be true for most people is often not true for me.
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