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I learned that a co-worker led me on for months while he was seeing another co-worker. I had no clue they dated. The other woman is no longer with him and we became friends.
We compared notes and we filled in a lot of blanks for one another regarding our experiences with this guy. He's super charming and knows how to keep you interested just enough to keep you stuck on him. He really played me for a fool, insisting on seeing certain movies with me, but never calling and telling me to call him, only to blow me off and not return my call. He wined and dined me after work and continued to ask me if I wanted to go out with him on weekends, but never followed through.
I later found out that he saw those movies with her. Turns out he only used her and was camped out at her place every weekend he wasn't with his kids and being real intense with her. Insisting that he loved her and constantly emailing, texting, etc. After several months he decided to move on from her, but wouldn't tell her. She said they were so intense and he was the perfect gentleman the whole time, but then he started avoiding her at work with no explanation and she had to track him down to get one. I told him that I feel like he doesn't respect me and he just shrugged his shoulders and walked off. We haven't been speaking since.
I've learned that everything about this guy is such a facade. I'm pissed that he got away with his game and the fact that I still have to see him every day at work doesn't help. I'd love to out him to our other co-workers but I don't want to be childish. Should I get a new job?
Is this some hillbilly office shack?
Who the heck plays these moronic romance games at work? Unreal.
What ticks me is that she says kids which means these people are grown-ups. Wheeee
So where do you work where he can get away with all this player behavior? Actually it sounds like a guy that I worked with. He kept telling me he wanted to do stuff together only it never happened and he would tell me all these reasons why he wanted to but he couldn't.
I learned that a co-worker led me on for months while he was seeing another co-worker. I had no clue they dated. The other woman is no longer with him and we became friends.
We compared notes and we filled in a lot of blanks for one another regarding our experiences with this guy. He's super charming and knows how to keep you interested just enough to keep you stuck on him. He really played me for a fool, insisting on seeing certain movies with me, but never calling and telling me to call him, only to blow me off and not return my call. He wined and dined me after work and continued to ask me if I wanted to go out with him on weekends, but never followed through.
I later found out that he saw those movies with her. Turns out he only used her and was camped out at her place every weekend he wasn't with his kids and being real intense with her. Insisting that he loved her and constantly emailing, texting, etc. After several months he decided to move on from her, but wouldn't tell her. She said they were so intense and he was the perfect gentleman the whole time, but then he started avoiding her at work with no explanation and she had to track him down to get one. I told him that I feel like he doesn't respect me and he just shrugged his shoulders and walked off. We haven't been speaking since.
I've learned that everything about this guy is such a facade. I'm pissed that he got away with his game and the fact that I still have to see him every day at work doesn't help. I'd love to out him to our other co-workers but I don't want to be childish. Should I get a new job?
Why are women always looking for some sort of retribution/revenge in a situation like this?
If you like your job then stay put...no reason to let him control your life like that.
I understand what you say about having to see him at work; but every time you do see him just mentally pat yourself on the back for realizing what he is and be thankful you are no longer dating him.
Don't focus on your dreams to get even. That will only hurt you.
The best revenge is to live better.
Move on, enjoy your life until you find someone who will make you happy, and
then you will have a nice life enhanced by a nice man.
Won't that be the best revenge??
Bottom line is he won't care if you stay or go so do what's in your best interest. You had no solid commitment form the man. He wasn't your fiancee or your husband you were just dating so he and yourself were free to date as you see fit.
As for the signs it sounds like he put up many red flags and as we all do you just didn't want to see them. Chalk it up to the game and just be glad you didn't get pregnant or make some other major life change due to the "relationship". Going forward just understand people are an "ex" for a reason. There had to be a reason he's not with the mother of his kids.
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Unreal.
