Played by a co-worker

[JanND]

No you couldn't. He didn't harass you, you were in a relationship, albeit w/ a jerk. Don't be foolish enough to date someone that you work with. I also wouldn't "set" him up. Move on, you were validated by the other female, you found out he was not worth your efforts. Just go about your business, hold your head up and be glad as someone posted...that you dodged a bullet w/ this guy.

[Peacelilies]

Originally Posted by Cindy_Jole

Don't quit your job unless you can afford to or you really hate your job.

Don't bad-mouth him because it just makes you look bad and gives your manager an excuse to fire you if necessary.

I think you can take a lot from this experience. You learned how a two-timer behaves and hopefully not to fall for that again, and you got a new friend who knows exactly how you feel. Lesson learned. Just don't let him bother you (still be civil in front of others) and get on with your life. That's the best "revenge".

This is very good advice and useful not just for a two-timing coworker but also for a sabotaging coworker. I did exactly this to a coworker who was evil. Instead of complaining to the hire ups, I just acted civilly, learnt my lesson about his behavior and moved on with my life (there was some pain though for a while).

But acting like this gave me success in the end because when I recently went to my hire-ups to report an unrelated incident, they listened to me and took action because they knew I wasn't a complainer.

[STT Resident]

Originally Posted by JanND

No you couldn't. He didn't harass you, you were in a relationship, albeit w/ a jerk.

She wasn't even in a relationship with him which is why this is doubly daft.