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This is just a potential warning to someone who may find themselves in a similar situation. My ex-gf lived at home - with the exception of two years - until the age of 33. She was and is very close to her parents. So close that she would never consider moving away from them. I was fine with that as I liked her parents, but......everything revolved around them and there was no room for compromise even if job, children, or health issues forced us to consider living somewhere else. She is so comfortable where she is that she is uncomfortable and insecure anywhere else and in the end this doomed things for us (it was a long distance relationship). I still don't know how she managed to date while living at home. "Bye mom, gonna sleep over at Alex's tonight." So the parents knew her every step?
This is also a warning to parents! Kick them out sooner than later if nothing but for their own good. If they always know they have a fall back they never will allow themselves to compromise with their SO.
This is just a potential warning to someone who may find themselves in a similar situation. My ex-gf lived at home - with the exception of two years - until the age of 33. She was and is very close to her parents. So close that she would never consider moving away from them. I was fine with that as I liked her parents, but......everything revolved around them and there was no room for compromise even if job, children, or health issues forced us to consider living somewhere else. She is so comfortable where she is that she is uncomfortable and insecure anywhere else and in the end this doomed things for us (it was a long distance relationship). I still don't know how she managed to date while living at home. "Bye mom, gonna sleep over at Alex's tonight." So the parents knew her every step?
This is also a warning to parents! Kick them out sooner than later if nothing but for their own good. If they always know they have a fall back they never will allow themselves to compromise with their SO.
European immigrants perhaps? Quite common over there.
Nope and it wasn't a financial situation either - she had a good job.
Although it doesn't happen as often in the 21st C as it used to in the past, some families just assume that daughters will live at home til they are married. Of course, most women marry b/f they are 30.
You also got to factor in situations. Maybe she was just a family oriented person. But yes she should be able to compromise. That's what a relationship is about.
I know a woman like this. In her case, it's co-dependence with her and her parents. They spoiled her and enjoyed doing it and she enjoyed being spoiled, so she never wanted to be far from them. That's all well and good for her but it made it hard for any young man to live up to her parents.
Well, in non-western cultures this is the norm for both sons and daughters. Parents don't kick their children out ever, and esp not if they are still single. The children leave on their own when they get married and have a family of their own. They don't see the point in breaking up a {nuclear} family that need not be broken up yet.
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