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This is actually the first time in a while that I started a thread, but here goes...
For those who don't know, I'm a 23 year old black man and I'm looking for a woman. I was considering putting up a Datehookup.com account for my fifth time. Right now, I'm not so sure about it because I don't know if when I delete an account and recreate one on the same site a couple times other members would notice and not contact me as often. I know almost all dating sites have fake people on there, but for some reason, I can't even tell who's real on Datehookup even though getting a response from some women much less holding a conversation rarely even happens in my case.
I remember I had a Match.com account since September 2006 even though until July 2010 it was a free account until I paid a discount for a 6 month subscription. I eventually decided to have them permanently delete my account once my subscription expired. I'm just curious to know though, is it worth paying online to find a woman that you wanna be with? Whether free or paid, which sites with a decent amount of real women would you recommend?
If you think I should try my efforts in the real world, while women could be found everywhere, where would they most likely be willing to talk to me? I should usually go over to them for a conversation, but what would make them want to come to me? What do they find attractive in a man? During the conversation, how would I know she wants to take it further? Thanks a lot for your helpful advice and honest answers!!!
Sometimes, when I get bored inside my apartment, I sometimes take a walk around my apartment or go downtown. What should I say to a woman in these scenarios? How about if I'm at the park or the mall? It's easier if I'm waiting for the bus or the train to hold a conversation, but how can I avoid talking to a woman and not seeing her again afterwards? Thanks again!!!
I think about it now after taking a walk out in the cold this morning around parts of the city, and I've realized something about this pursuit. Maybe I should focus on working towards doing something that doesn't make me so dependent on a woman. If I were to lose her, I'd have something like a career to think about after I graduate from college. I'm hoping I get a job soon while in college, so maybe I should wait until 2012 hits to see if things get better with the economy. I look good though I could look better, but I think for me this would make things better.
I also realize no one responded yet, what do you think about me taking this route?
So you signed up for Match at 18?
I don't think it would hurt to do both...have an online dating profile and meet women in the real world. Personally, I'm wary of guys I meet on the train or while just walking around...I've heard other girls say the same thing. I'm usually happy to talk but that's more b/c I'm generally friendly not because I'm interested. I most likely wouldn't give out my contact information.
You could take an adult education class, attend an alumni event, go to a happy tag along with a friend to a party where you can meet new people...etc. All of those things would get you contact with young singles who'd be more likely to be interested in you.
So you signed up for Match at 18?
I don't think it would hurt to do both...have an online dating profile and meet women in the real world. Personally, I'm wary of guys I meet on the train or while just walking around...I've heard other girls say the same thing. I'm usually happy to talk but that's more b/c I'm generally friendly not because I'm interested. I most likely wouldn't give out my contact information.
You could take an adult education class, attend an alumni event, go to a happy tag along with a friend to a party where you can meet new people...etc. All of those things would get you contact with young singles who'd be more likely to be interested in you.
I guess both methods would definitely make the pool larger. My most recent dating site was Datehookup.com. If I start an account there again, it would be my fifth time. I wonder if there's any free sites besides Plenty of Fish and Okcupid since I don't like them. Haven't had an account on Match.com for almost a year, so maybe I'll try that again sometime soon since it's probably the most legitimate and successful site year after year.
I'm in college, but housing is not on campus and where I currently live is about 25-30 miles away. Really in need of money so I could be outside the house more including meeting some young women during my freetime; therefore, I'm hoping to land a job of interest before the end of 2011. Maybe the economy will get better once 2012 hits, so that's when I expect something will likely happen. That's what I plan to do for the real world unless I'm able to meet a woman from online.
Either way, I'm in no rush because patience is what could lead to positive results. Thanks for your helpful advice though since that's where I could start so I don't have to be so bored around the apartment so much!!!
Take up running. Seriously! The training is free and the races are only about $20-$30.
There are tons and tons of single men and women at these 5K races I go to. Most people are there for a bit before the race starts, warming up, and there is almost always some kind of "party" afterwards. Strike up a conversation with someone...it's very easy!
Heck if I were single that's where I'd be going to meet men!
I think you should do both. I have been on Match and I meet some nice people but a lot of guys sent me messages because they thought I was fake. I think Match has fake profiles.
Well, for about the 5th time, I have an account on the free Datehookup.com site. Hopefully it would bring me more success than the past 4 times.
I would definitely try running as well so I'd get more exercise than if I was just walking. I'm also thinking of finding a local gym where I can use the weights.
You can always look online for those sites that tell you where people meet in your city that share the same interest as you.
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