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Old 12-11-2011, 11:45 AM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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I see.
But don't you think opposites can attract sometimes i.e Non-drinker with Social-drinker?

I am not attracted to my opposite, if I thought it was attractive I would simply be that way.
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Old 12-11-2011, 11:46 AM
 
Location: Toronto
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Yeah, they all seem to think that if they can just figure out what type of drink suits you then you'll soon be on your way to delightful drunkenness.

Them: "Oh here, if you didn't like that particular red whine, you may like this white whine."
Me: "This tastes just as horrible, but in a slightly different way."

Them: "Ooh, try this hard lemonade. You'll probably like it."
Me: "Tolerable. Would taste much better if it was just regular lemonade."

Them: "Try this rum with Coke. Surely you'll like it."
Me: "Hey, that's not especially awful. Kind of taste like vanilla Coke, except it's ruined by the taste of alcohol."

Them: "Try this beer."
Me: *vomit* "Why do you hate me?"
They usually have non-alcoholic drinks at bars too, if you don't want a drink, but how socially acceptable it is to chug your soda pop in front of everyone still varies quite a lot by your peer group.
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Old 12-11-2011, 01:08 PM
 
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Lol. So I'm guessing you now have it under control right?

Haha, yeah. I quit drinking vodka.
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Old 12-11-2011, 02:35 PM
 
Location: California
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I've gone through long periods where I haven't drank anything, no particular reason other than I didn't feel like it. It never hurt me socially but I don't really know any heavy drinkers anyway. It's super easy for me to hang out in a bar with people and not do any or much drinking. I can nurse a glass of wine or beer for hours or get a 7up or ginger ale. Nobody cares. I usually only have more than one drink when I'm home anyway and don't have to worry about driving. These day's I'm most likely to have something at night, alone, and do it out of appreciation for the beverage rather than party and get buzzed.
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Old 12-11-2011, 03:00 PM
 
Location: Bellingham, WA
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They usually have non-alcoholic drinks at bars too, if you don't want a drink, but how socially acceptable it is to chug your soda pop in front of everyone still varies quite a lot by your peer group.
Oh I know, but that brings up the issue of how I don't like bars in general. 99% of the times friends have attempted to get me to try different alcoholic drinks were outside of bars. And out of curiosity, I've willingly tasted every drink they've offered, which has been quite a few. And so far I haven't liked any of them.
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Old 12-11-2011, 03:30 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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I have nothing against drinking alcohol in moderation, personally, and enjoy all beer, some wine, and a few liquors. But I rarely enjoy bar environments, at least the bar environments that have always been most prevalent where I've always lived. I do enjoy a cozy, quiet pub that has booths, etc. where you can get together with friends and talk, but I experienced those predominantly when I was a student and studied abroad in Europe...they exist in the U.S., but are not the prevailing bar environment, culturally.

When I was single, I tolerated bars, even though they're kind of tiresome to me, because that was one of the things people did to socialize. Now that I'm in a relationship with somebody who is like me (i.e. is fine with drinking, but is lukewarm on rowdy, loud, crowded, obnoxious or meatmarkety bars), we rarely venture into bars unless they are one of a handful of brewpubs we know, which are more restaurant/lounge-y in character than bar-like. We also like the atmosphere of drinks on a patio in warm weather.

I can't imagine a context where I would ever look down at an acquaintance for drinking something non-alcoholic when out. Most people, if they're decent friends, are just glad you're out socializing, and don't really care what you're drinking or not drinking. If they do, the problem isn't the bar, it's your friends.

I can't say that a person who goes along to the bars and is blatant about what a ****ty time he or she's having is all that much fun, though.
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Old 12-11-2011, 03:41 PM
 
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I could not help myself and respond to your thread. I definitely believe that alcohol in excessive amounts can have a detrimental effect on your decision making process. However, I think a drink or two is great for breaking the ice with the cool stranger or co worker that you have been wanting to talk to. If you dont like the taste of alcohol I suggest getting something on the fruity side like a Cape Cod, or Mai Tai, anything like that will do. My personal opinion is to stay away from men who drink fruity or mix drinks of any kind. No this has nothing to do with their sexual orientation! It just has to do with their character and sensibilities in general. Shoot for a guy who drinks beer, wine, or whiskey. My wife and I have sat down and compiled a list of little things like this to check off when considering being involved with someone. I hope this has helped, good luck!
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Old 12-11-2011, 03:41 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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I used to go to nightclub types of bar when I was in my early 20's, mostly just to try and meet chicks.

The music usually always sucked, I was never into hip hop or dance type music, so that was always a big negative.

I'm more of a dive bar play the jukebox kind of guy. I don't mind the loungy restaurant types either.

I hate the whole meat market vibe and the preening and crap that both of the sexes do. Makes me do this
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Old 12-11-2011, 04:36 PM
 
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I've gone through long periods where I haven't drank anything, no particular reason other than I didn't feel like it. It never hurt me socially but I don't really know any heavy drinkers anyway. It's super easy for me to hang out in a bar with people and not do any or much drinking. I can nurse a glass of wine or beer for hours or get a 7up or ginger ale. Nobody cares. I usually only have more than one drink when I'm home anyway and don't have to worry about driving. These day's I'm most likely to have something at night, alone, and do it out of appreciation for the beverage rather than party and get buzzed.
The section I bolded is what I'd like to be. To be super comfortable hanging out in a bar without any drinking at all. Even though I don't imbibe, I do want the social connections.
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