At this rate, I'm going to be a 40 year old virgin
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Have you thought about signing up for a dating service? You could try it's just lunch or some similar service that will find compatible matches for you, set up dates and provide you with feedback on what things went well and what didn't. Since you're not very social, this might be your best bet for meeting people. And it will hopefully help you feel more comfortable with dating so that you can eventually strike out on your own if you don't meet someone. It can be a little pricey, but maybe worth it. Good luck and don't worry!
It sounds like you are basically admitting to having no social skills, that others feel you are unapproachable, etc. It is going to be hard for you to break out of the rut you are in, even if you want to, if everyone feels you are closed in and unapproachable.
I know, I have been there myself. (Suffered great social anxiety, could not speak to women, etc, but had very good job, happy and normal elsewhere in my life, etc. Let the anxiety around women run my life through my 20's. Now engaged at 34, couldn't be happier!)
You need to make yourself attractive and approachable to women, and although there are physical aspects to that such as appearance, hygene, etc, it is a lot more.
You have to be approachable to talk to. Don't stand around with arms crossed. A scowl or frown on your face, etc. Your body language must be open and approachable.
Once approached, you then need to be able to communicate in an attractive way. That just doesn't mean using correct grammer or clear pronunciation. You don't want women to think you are self centered, self absorbed, conceited, depressed, mean, closed in, etc. You want them to be interested, to see the good in you through what topics you speak about and how you speak about them.
You are educated, have a stable job, and are generally happy with the other areas in your life. Congrats, you have a lot going for you! With a little work, I am sure you can have dates all the time! You just need to work on your self to be able to attract women, and be attractive to women! (Someone like a life coach will help a lot, and make it far quicker and easier for you).
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