If women love stable, respectable, men with good jobs why am I still single? (girlfriends, attractiveness)
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You have to have the killer instinct. Girls dont respect nice - its perceived as weak. If you want a girl you have to show her your strong and a man among men able to lead - the best and strongest of the pack. They dont want some wishy washy run of the mill dime a dozen drone. They want an alpha male who takes chances and isnt afraid to move up in the world and do whatever it takes to do it.
Looks, money, height, education, stability...all have very little to do with success with women. Most women like real and masculine men. If you can work through the mountain of BS social conditioning and bad dating advice, you would know what that means.
Im 45 never been married. Work at a good Government job in the IT field but I can't get a second date. Now I'm no Brad Pitt but I think women should look past looks and see me for my stability and what I could potentially bring to a relationship.
I'm going to pretend to be dating coach and ask you some questions you can ask yourself.
Are you very clear on the question of WHY you are dating? Are you looking for a wife? Or just a girlfriend or companion? My thinking is that you are not giving the women any clues as to why you are in the dating pool, and women being responders, don't know how to respond to a man that does that. So take some time and figure out what you want out of dating, and then it may be easier to find women who are on the same page.
What do you talk about on your dates? It's better if you avoid controversial topics until the two of you get to know each other. If you tend to be opinionated, sometimes that can be a turnoff, depending on the girl. Do you monopolize the conversation? That can be another turnoff. And keep your conversation topics kind of light and breezy. Stay way from heavy topics like dating pasts.
Another question: Do you act relaxed and happy to be on a date or do you act bored and stressed out? A woman can mistake boredom and stress non verbal cues as a rejection of HER, so be careful of that.
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Having a good paying job, being lovable, having a nice car, etc. are characteristics that seem to attract women but don’t forget about your personality, chemistry, sense of humor, and so on. You wouldn’t just go for a girl you find attractive and that’s it, right? It’s the whole package.
Having a good paying job, being lovable, having a nice car, etc. are characteristics that seem to attract women but don’t forget about your personality, chemistry, sense of humor, and so on... It’s the whole package.
After doing some research on this topic, I came to the conclusion that women are attracted to these six things:
1. Means (Wealth, possessions, gifts to them or providing for them)
2. Power (Influence, Leadership, provide safety, charisma)
3. Fame
4. Looks (including height)
5. Exclusivity (Royalty, already married, hard to get, affliation)
6. Personality (Humor, creativity, romance, intelligence, mystique, giftedness, confidence, dominance etc.)
Having a good paying job, being lovable, having a nice car, etc. are characteristics that seem to attract women but don’t forget about your personality, chemistry, sense of humor, and so on. You wouldn’t just go for a girl you find attractive and that’s it, right? It’s the whole package.
This is what I don't understand on CDF, why so many focus on one particular trait or characteristic of themselves or another and wonder why their relationships aren't successful. You are the sum of all of your parts, however, IMO if you have a lousy personality/character, that will break you more than appearance, job, materials things, etc.
This is what I don't understand on CDF, why so many focus on one particular trait or characteristic of themselves or another and wonder why their relationships aren't successful. You are the sum of all of your parts, however, IMO if you have a lousy personality/character, that will break you more than appearance, job, materials things, etc.
Depends on the characteristic. If LOOKS are the issue, that trumps just about everything else. The dude could be a 6-figure earning brain powerhouse with multiple degrees, massive crib and car, and a wallet oozing with ca$h and cards, and be smooth smooth smooth but if and I mean BUT IF he doesn't have the LOOKS to back all that window dressing up, all that other crap up, then he's DEAD to women. No damn way around it.
Don't talk about Star Trek on your first date. Those who do seem to just go on and on... They never get second dates from me, even if he's a doctor and his daddy was a doctor, and he's got this real big house that I could definitely redecorate. Yeah, I went to his house before he even asked me to dinner--to use his computer bec mine broke down. He was nice (not nice-looking), so I gave him a chance. But he could have been in a monologue all night. And I don't even like Star Trek!
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