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Well we all have our "good" friends at work and our "good" friends in the apartment complex or on our block... but how many of those "good" friends would you remain in contact with if you weren't forced to see them on a regular basis.
Having moved and/or changed jobs (and even countries) numerous times over the years, I find there are some friends who permanent, and some who come and go. I can usually tell which they are before some change clarifies their status.
with the change of address or job or eating/drinking habits etc?
Well, marriages should NOT be ended by any of those things, but if taken to the super extreme, eating and drinking could definitely have an effect on things, but change of address or job? I dont think so.
In thinking back to when I was NOT married, change of address (i.e., moving away) would have an effect because I would never do a long distance relationship.
Changing of job would NOT have an effect at all.
Now, changing of eating and/or drinking habits could DEFINITELY negatively impact things. The fact that I would be with a chick, she would have her priorities in order when it comes to health, fitness, nutrition, weight, etc. For her to completely change her eating habits to something completely unhealthy, to where it effects her weight, health and the lifestyle that I/we lead, then I'd probably end it if she didnt get her head back on straight and change course from unhealthy life back to her original healthy one. Same with alcohol, no one wants to be with a drunk, so I'd definitely end it.
EDIT
Just some some of the recent posts where people are talking about FRIENDS instead of RELATIONSHIPS (where I consider discussion of "relationships" on a relationship board to mean "romantic relationship" unless otherwise stated by person starting the discussion). So my comments above all relate to "romantic relationships". Now, if we are just talking about "FRIEND" relationships, then I'd have to say that they should ABSOLUTELY NOT CHANGE due to any of those things.......... unless the person becomes a drunk. With FACEBOOK, I still keep in touch with friends I made all the way back in high school even though many live in different parts of the planet. So....... there answers the OPs question.
Well we all have our "good" friends at work and our "good" friends in the apartment complex or on our block... but how many of those "good" friends would you remain in contact with if you weren't forced to see them on a regular basis.
Yeah, you usually lose contact with former neighbors and co-workers. Many of these relations that kind of look like friendships are only fueled by convenience, lack of other choices, and the things in common are just the neighborhood- or work-related everyday issues. When they go away, not much, if anything, is left.
Well we all have our "good" friends at work and our "good" friends in the apartment complex or on our block... but how many of those "good" friends would you remain in contact with if you weren't forced to see them on a regular basis.
Well, As for work friends I have experienced this firsthand. Many great people I have worked with moved on, And of course there is the "Lets keep in touch" outing before they leave. But aside from an occasional e-mail we always drifted apart. Just the nature of the beast as people get busy with adjusting to a new situation. And days multiply into weeks and so on.
As for friends, I only recently saw my childhood friend for the first time in 2 years. We spoke maybe 3 times a year despite him being a half a mile away. Life stuff and struggles on his end. The sad part was I saw him to give him $50 to get him out of a jam. He was moving a block away and has no cell phone, And said he would call me with his new number. Nothing. I think I was duped, And this thread just hit home for me.
Only now am I finding out which ones were real friends, and which were just people I knew.
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