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Old 12-18-2011, 02:41 PM
 
Location: tampa bay
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All of the above has nothing to do with not showing affection because the poor kids will be "grossed-out" !
Affection as in hugging and quick hello goodbye kiss that's fine...I'm just talking about more sexual behavior...most of my post was addressing your seemingly critical view of my parenting beliefs of previous posts.All I am saying is walk a mile in my shoes and then tell me I'm going about my life all wrong!
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Old 12-18-2011, 02:50 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Affection as in hugging and quick hello goodbye kiss that's fine...
Oh, OK. I reacted because it sounded like you totally avoided it and I don't belive it's all that good to teach kids their parents are sexless creatures. That's probably why many think their parents don't love each other and last time they had sex was when their youngest sibling was conceived.
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Old 12-18-2011, 03:07 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Oh, OK. I reacted because it sounded like you totally avoided it and I don't belive it's all that good to teach kids their parents are sexless creatures. That's probably why many think their parents don't love each other and last time they had sex was when their youngest sibling was conceived.
I've got to agree with you about this sierra. If you want your kids to grow up with healthy attitudes about sex and intimacy they need to see that modeled by their parents.

Now, of course, it has to be done tastefully and appropriately, but it is important for kids to witness
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Old 12-18-2011, 03:11 PM
 
Location: tampa bay
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I've got to agree with you about this sierra. If you want your kids to grow up with healthy attitudes about sex and intimacy they need to see that modeled by their parents.

Now, of course, it has to be done tastefully and appropriately, but it is important for kids to witness
I agree!
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Old 12-18-2011, 03:19 PM
 
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I suspect my parents are in this situation. Married for 35+ years but probably stopped loving each other 15-20 years ago. They're probably still together because although they don't love each other anymore, they get along just fine (hardly ever argue, etc.) and its a convenient living situation. However, they show zero affection, don't give each other gifts/cards, don't do any activities together, never travel anywhere together, etc. I can't see either of them living alone, since they depend on each other for too many practical things. Dad for earning $$ and maintaining the house, mom for cooking/cleaning, etc.
My parents fit this description 100%. But anyway, they came from a time when people got married not because they wanted to but because tradition said they should.

I also imagine they never desired me nor my brother but just like above, everyone was supposed to have children then...
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Old 12-18-2011, 03:21 PM
 
Location: In my view finder.....
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they came from a time when people got married not because they wanted to but because tradition said they should.

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That's why a lot of people get married today.
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Old 12-18-2011, 03:22 PM
 
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Absolutely, those conceptions still exist today but I think it was stronger in the past.
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Old 12-18-2011, 04:11 PM
 
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After almost 12 years, I'm still crazy in love with my wife. Sometimes love matures and changes. Nothing wrong with that.
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Old 12-18-2011, 04:24 PM
 
Location: Northern Wisconsin
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I know the question was about those married and don't love their spouse anymore, but I thought I'd let you know that some are married a long time and still love each other. We've been married 35 years. I love and care for her more than when we got married. We still take special trips, just for us two. We still have an active sex life, with help from modern medicine.

Some of you have been jumping in and saying that your parents or someone else is married but not happily, but without actual knowledge. Yes, there are plenty of sexless brother sister type marriages out there. But just because its not a constant love fest around our house, doesn't mean we don't love each other. My guess is that at least one of my sons thinks there's nothing going on between the sheets any more. Him and his wife are still hands all over each other after 2 years of being married. My wife and I often don't even sit right next to each other on the couch. (We have a recliner couch and the recliner seats are on the end. We each get our own.) That doesn't mean we don't love each other. At the end of the day, we're tired and we just want to relax.

When I look at a long term marriage, and see a couple that never takes a vacation or trip with just the two, or when they take a vacation, there are always friends along, or when they never do things together, let's just say, those are not good signs.
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Old 12-18-2011, 04:26 PM
 
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No anonymous poll?! This baby won't be one of your successful BS-generators, Ronnie... RIP, thread!
Lol just what I was thinking, where is the poll?
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