Why do some people identify themselves with pictures that do not look like them, as if I won't know when I meet them? (dating, guy)
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I do not understand why some people do this. If I'm going to meet somebody in person, then I am going to see what they actually look like because I'll be looking right at them. So then, what is the purpose of sending pictures of oneself to a potential romantic interest which are not representative of the way one looks? Is it a bait and switch? Is it to get me to drive somewhere, perhaps as far as 20 miles, and then say to myself, "This person looks nothing like the pictures they sent, but hey, I'm already here, so I may as well just settle and pretend I'm sexually attracted to this person -- you've got a pulse, so let's get it on, baby!!!" Really? Is that the intent? I honestly do not know, because it's behavior that's foreign to me and I have no means by which I can relate to it.
Maybe they think they really look like that?
How much different are they in the photos?
I have never met someone from OLD who looked extremely different in person as compared to their photos. Everyone was within the realm of reason (some people photograph a tad differently than they appear in person, so that's what I meam).
I chatted to a black guy who had a beautiful pic on his profile. So gorgeous I asked to see more as he only had 1 pic up. Turns out, it wasn't actually him in the pic, but some model! I figured he was hoping to perhaps deceive other races who might find it difficult to distinguish between black faces. Unfortunately for him, I'm also black so could see right through his facade. The cheek!
So to answer your question OP, yes. Some people really do believe you'll give them a chance once you meet. Oh how wrong they are!
Last edited by 1xolisiwe; 11-11-2015 at 02:30 AM..
Probably to get a foot in the door. Alot of OLD will be about looks. So have a nice pic. Either of someone else, a model, or older photo where they were younger and lighter. Then once you meet, you'll give them a chance before you write them off from the get-go.
And some people aren't bad looking, but may not be photogenic.
I chatted to a black guy who had a beautiful pic on his profile. So gorgeous I asked to see more as he only had 1 pic up. Turns out, it wasn't actually him in the pic, but some model! I figured he was hoping to perhaps deceive other races who might find it difficult to distinguish between black faces. Unfortunately for him, I'm also black so could see right through his facade. The cheek!
So to answer your question OP, yes. Some people really do believe you'll give them a chance once you meet. Oh how wrong they are!
Stereotyping much? I seriously doubt you are black.
Stereotyping much? I seriously doubt you are black.
This is not a stereotype at all. I live in Australia and I get mistaken for other black people all the time. I've had conversations where I realise midway that the person thinks I'm someone else. This used to happen to me in England as well!
A photo is not worth a thousand words, as the old saying goes, it can be absolutely worthless!
I'm 65YO, and if any of my partners, over the years, long before the Internet, had uploaded their photo's way back when, on a dating site, I would have rejected every one of them.
"I don't like his smile!"
"He's losing his hair already!"
"He doesn't look like he's in good shape!"
"He's too tall for me!"
And what would I have missed out on? If nothing else, some of he best sex I've ever experienced!
Makes such a difference when you meet someone in a bar, you've had a drink or two, you vision gets blurred, the lights are dimmed low, the touching of the hands, the chemistry missing from an online photo!
In many ways, I feel sorry for the visually oriented today, deeming someone into oblivion on looks only!
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