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Do not say anything until you are about to get laid. If you tell her too soon, she will tell her friends, and you can be 100% certain that her friends will be making virgin jokes whether she likes it or not.
Me personally, I'd rather a virgin than a guy who can't count the number of women he slept with on one hand.
What's important though is that you never straight admit it. That's absoustely the wrong way to go about it. Live your life not worrying about it, and let it be discovered while in the act like burglar said.
Then how does it play out "in reality?" I'm curious. I agree that virginity should be a non-issue.
So in "reality" the 22 year old virgin keeps his virginity a secret, has sex with a woman, she detects he's inexperienced, despises the fact and immediately dumps him because he's not Don Juan in the sack?
There are plenty of men who have had sex with hundreds of women who happen to be terrible in the sack. There's no corrolation between number of partners and prowess in bed.
Your sexual history and preferences are nobody's business but your own and the person you're sexually involved with.
Take your time, until you find the RIGHT one to have sex with. It's not a sprint it's a marathon. The longer you stay sexually uninvolved the better.
Hell, I made the mistake of thinking that the first person I had sex with actually wanted to be my boyfriend. To avoid being mentally hijacked by someone who just wants to jump your bones, take your time.
Think about it like this. Don't have sex until you can actually financially support a family (yeah sex is fun but just imagine if the protection failed - is the person you're having sex with worthy enough to be a parent to your child? The answer better be yes EVERY TIME! If the answer is NO, then you better wait a little longer)
Then how does it play out "in reality?" I'm curious. I agree that virginity should be a non-issue.
So in "reality" the 22 year old virgin keeps his virginity a secret, has sex with a woman, she detects he's inexperienced, despises the fact and immediately dumps him because he's not Don Juan in the sack?
There are plenty of men who have had sex with hundreds of women who happen to be terrible in the sack. There's no corrolation between number of partners and prowess in bed.
That's not what I said, you did....anyway, I can only tell somebody what I've experienced and in my limited experience like I said, "just don't tell them" is not the reality of most of the situations. Example: Look at that thread going on about how long do you wait to get intimate? Majority of the answers aren't very long periods of time (this is neither bad nor good, just saying) also that puts a stake in the "just don't tell them" arguement b/c obviously, it comes up. I'm not saying he's going to tell every single date he has -- but to pretend it just won't come up after several dates or weeks, is unrealistic. 22 is still quite young and in the 'normal' realm, he waits a few years, say 5, it's going to be nothing but a headache. This is my opinion based on my own life, like I said I don't know about someone else's situation.
I also never said there's a correlation between number of partners and how good the person is or not....
I would not think there would be a really big stigma with a virgin who is 22.
If I was the OP, I would not give it a second thought, and just work on being less "quiet" when he first meets people. Some people interpret shyness as a sign that a person is conceited or full of themselves, which can limit opportunities.
He should date one or both of the ladies who is showing interest, and just see where things go!
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