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Old 01-07-2013, 07:31 AM
 
Location: Morrisville
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Wait till you marry and have that special bond!!I at 55 and I know several other of others age that have only been with the one ! It a great Thing ,Why sleep around etc ,It plain trashey and then talk grad about, You are to smart and stay safe !

 
Old 01-07-2013, 08:38 AM
 
Location: around racist white people
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As a 35 year old virgin, I know the few times I've talked to a potential date or partner, it's been another issue that adds to my perceived wierdness. Then I quickly get put into the friend/acquaintances category. People aren't all that fair or open-minded about it, they consider it wierd and a source of questioning.

Unlike most people here, I advise the virgin that's bothered by it to go out and lose their virginity, if its bugging them so much. Don't let other people with emotional baggage project their regrets onto you. It's hard to live down regrets about growing older and older and being a virgin, but easy to forget about throwing away your virginity.
Well women will look at you funny that's something to keep personal.

Women sometimes judge men by their Abbott to get women so if you're undesirable that says alot to a woman. If I was in that spot ill get escorts.
 
Old 01-07-2013, 08:41 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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It really didn't become an issue for me until this year when my friends picked up on the fact that I am a virgin, which was my fault for being completely honest and not putting out random numbers like I suspect a lot of them do when conversations about women they have been with come up.

To describe myself, I am 22, black, 6'4", I workout regularly and soon to be a college graduate and I have been told by some girls before that I am pretty cute but they have also said that I am also too quiet(initial response I get when I meet my friends female friends for the first time). Right now there are two girls that are showing strong interest in me and I am thinking of just going ahead with one of them just for the purpose of getting laid.

How would you feel if the guy you were dating was 22 and a virgin?
I dated a 21-year-old virgin and deflowered him. He liked me, though ... I wouldn't have wanted to if he simply saw me as a means to an end.
 
Old 01-07-2013, 08:42 AM
 
Location: around racist white people
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Better than a male wh*re . You're gonna be fine
Male whores get plenty of women, society is highly sexual for a good reason why bad boys usually win. Too much thinking = losing with women at times.

What op needs to do is don't even think about it and live life get out mingle and he will be in some in no time.

In the real world you see why nice guys lose.
 
Old 01-07-2013, 01:53 PM
 
Location: where people are either too stupid to leave or too stuck to move
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Male whores get plenty of women, society is highly sexual for a good reason why bad boys usually win. Too much thinking = losing with women at times.

What op needs to do is don't even think about it and live life get out mingle and he will be in some in no time.

In the real world you see why nice guys lose.
well that was MY opinion but whatever
 
Old 01-07-2013, 02:23 PM
 
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As a 35 year old virgin, I know the few times I've talked to a potential date or partner, it's been another issue that adds to my perceived wierdness. Then I quickly get put into the friend/acquaintances category. People aren't all that fair or open-minded about it, they consider it wierd and a source of questioning.

Unlike most people here, I advise the virgin that's bothered by it to go out and lose their virginity, if its bugging them so much. Don't let other people with emotional baggage project their regrets onto you. It's hard to live down regrets about growing older and older and being a virgin, but easy to forget about throwing away your virginity.
IMO the whole "lose it to someone you care about" is so over rated. Especially at age 22.
The longer you wait, the more difficult it is to lose it. It becomes a bigger deal than it needs to be. And a age 22, and about to get a college degree, I would assume you are mature enough for some physical contact. Chances are, you are in a much better mental and emotional position to engage in intimacy than a 16 year old.
First time I did it, she had no idea I hadn't had sex. Maybe she had some clues, but I didn't admit to it untill the whole "how many people have you slept with?" question was asked (this was AFTER we slept together). She was floored, couldn't believe it. Then she went and told a bunch of people, which kind of ticked me off. Cause people are quite judgmental.
If I had to go through it again, I would probably lie to her and say one other person. Keep the story brief, like it was a limited time/ number of experiences. Or, some people don't even ask, but in the early 20's, when a lot of people's numbers are low, many ask cause they don't want to be number 100. But, as we get older, and our numbers increase, the ever so popular "it's none of your business" line is commonly used.

No one needs to know you are a virgin. I lost mine later than average, but very few people knew it at the time. Granted, I didn't fabricate stories, but most people never asked me anyway. Sometimes if a friend of mine knew I was a virgin, and someone else asked me, my friend would lie for me.

Again, it really is no ones business how many people (zero to infinity partners) you have. And as a 22 male, it is probably BETTER if people think you have had a partner or two.
 
Old 01-08-2013, 02:12 PM
 
Location: Durham, NC
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It really didn't become an issue for me until this year when my friends picked up on the fact that I am a virgin, which was my fault for being completely honest and not putting out random numbers like I suspect a lot of them do when conversations about women they have been with come up.

To describe myself, I am 22, black, 6'4", I workout regularly and soon to be a college graduate and I have been told by some girls before that I am pretty cute but they have also said that I am also too quiet(initial response I get when I meet my friends female friends for the first time). Right now there are two girls that are showing strong interest in me and I am thinking of just going ahead with one of them just for the purpose of getting laid.

How would you feel if the guy you were dating was 22 and a virgin?
Well, I'm not the target of your story but perhaps I can offer advice.

I lost my virginity at 24. I'm male. For the record, I'm not unattractive--quite the opposite. The problem is I always had high social anxiety and it made it very difficult for me to approach women. It held me back at many stages of my life.

What I have learned is that while most women will have a lot more experience than you at your age, they won't necessarily consider your inexperience a negative. They might even see it as an adorable quality. Don't lie about your history (too much) to try to seem more confident. Just put yourself out there and make it your thing. I quickly learned that I could make it my thing. Girls treated me like an adorable little puppy learning to walk, and I ended up quickly making up for lost time in the past two years. Still kinda bitter about how long it took for me, but I have no complaints about where I am now. Approaching women used to feel like climbing Mt Everest and now I feel like I have the steely confidence to climb Everest whenever I need to. It's awesome.
 
Old 01-08-2013, 04:23 PM
 
Location: Keosauqua, Iowa
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Wasn't AC Green a virgin until he was 39? I don't think it hurt him any.
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