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Being able to break up with people who you realize youre not compatible with is a good skill to have I think. Be prepared for a "why did you delete me?" question though, just hold your position, and don't fall for guilt unless you want to do this all over again later.
Just remember she may be offended or hurt, but that's part of life and in all reality she's probably experienced worse in the past. She'll bounce back and hopefully be less annoying to her next friend.
It may be facebook - but people do actually have real feelings. fyi. Yes I have been deleted by people before - sometimes it hurts.
You're serious? Honey....it's FACEBOOK. I thought you were talking about telling her you no longer wished to be friends...and you are just talking about FB? Wow. Delete her already. And stop worrying about hurt feelings over an online social site. If they are old enough to be online, they should be old enough to deal with it.
Just delete her gawd it's face-book for crying out loud!
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You're old enough to be married?
What can I say except I'm astonished that you can't grasp the sheer irony of the first two quoted responses and I echo the question posed in the third. And I have another - do spouses in general REALLY discuss with each the pros and cons of deleting people on FB?
What can I say except I'm astonished that you can't grasp the sheer irony of the first two quoted responses and I echo the question posed in the third. And I have another - do spouses in general REALLY discuss with each the pros and cons of deleting people on FB?
Haha. My wife and I had a brief conversation about it once. I said I'm sick of a mutual friends stupid posts and comments, and that I was going to delete her. My wife agreed with being annoyed by her, but insisted on keeping her on hers. A few months later she's mentioning getting rid of her on her account.
Never knew people took it as something to get hurt or upset over..
I have realized as I have aged that anyone who I find is draining me of my energy, is taking way too much of my time, even mentally, is out of my life.
Ask yourself... Is this person enhancing your life? Does she give back, not only take? Most importantly... Is this someone whom you would feel you could go to if you really had a problem and needed to talk and have someone REALLY listen to you?
The problem is totally with you and not with your friend and your problem is being a weakling in this instance. No one can take advantage of a person without your permission. I can't imagine not immediately unfriending her... this is Facebook here, not reality! Don't accept or return her calls, problem solved. Move on with your life.
Why on earth would you feel "guilty" about this? You describe a boring, clinging, rude person. Who would want a friend like this? So your husband tells you to "give her another chance," so what? She was your friend, not his. Feeling guilty about something so inconsequential is unusual, to say the least.
I don't think you have to actively delete her from your life. Just do it passively. When she contact you about doing something like giving her a ride somewhere, tell her you would "love to help out, but just can't" because you are busy. If she messages you on facebook, ignore it. Or message back something like... "Can't chat now, have to run".
Just stop RESPONDING to her and sooner or later she'll get the point. Do things with other people. You don't have to be mean or rude or even say anything about it to her. Just start doing things with other people.
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