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Without going into the little details, shivers got sent down my spine. Let's just say people who indulge in this or carry this lifestyle on are mentally deranged people and can never fit into a normal relationship.
Worse is when some of these same women/men who come out of such abnormal dealings and start seeing new men and women and bring those complexities into the lives of newer, unsuspecting people.
How does one verify if a person you are getting involved with did not have a shady past? How can I know if the women I am dating now were never involved in creepy bondage stuff? Is it something one can ask without eyebrows being raised?
The first paragraph is your opinion and I won't argue with it.
Men and women who come out of these dealings go onto other types of the same relationship if it is what they honestly enjoy. I wouldn't dream of forcing my kink on anyone who wasn't interested.
We verify by word of mouth. If you get labeled as a prick of a Dom or a disobedient Sub who likes to top from the bottom it will be ALOT harder to pair up with someone else in the community. We have zero tolerance for abusers! Myself included.
If you can't trust your women to be honest with you about their sexual past then there is an entirely different problem you are having. Trust issues are relationship death.
I can't speak for everyone else but sex should be discussed up front knowing the kinds of things that I like. I wouldn't want to waste my time and lead a man on only to find out that I have no hope of being sexually satisfied by them.
I have a question(s). How do you have time and commitment for school, work, and hobbies if you're at the beck and call of another? Or is it beckon? I don't know!
Personally. I don't understand the need to know thing going on here.
The last thread posted on the topic by the OP included details of the practice I can't comprehend living, let alone on a daily basis.
The practice falls under philia in the DSM.
Do you mean to imply that I somehow get a thrill by posting these topics to those who are not in the lifestyle? No I do not.
I came here seeking advice on a personal matter because we are a well known couple in the BDSM world and I didn't feel like I could talk to those in my community about my specific problem without fear of rejection so I came here.
Yikes...I easily could have lived my life without knowing ANY of this!!
That is ok. This thread is not for you then. I expect that everyone can take or leave this thread accordingly and not make a big fuss and have the thing devolve into personal attacks.
If you wish to give your view that you do not like the style as relating to my opening topic then please feel free but let's keep this thread on track.
I have a question(s). How do you have time and commitment for school, work, and hobbies if you're at the beck and call of another? Or is it beckon? I don't know!
We have a contract and a prearranged agreement that sets these things in stone.
I have already gone through school. I am a certified TESOL teacher. I teach English to Korean students online. That way I never have to leave home.
As for hobbies I guess you could say that I live them on a daily basis but as for more mundane things like my love of pro wrestling and my interest in politics we have arrangements for those things too.
What is sub who tops from the bottom? Someone who undermines the Sir?
And what is your specific problem referred to above?
A Sub who tops from the bottom is a Sub who enjoys being 'punished' and continually acts bossy and tried to tick off their Dom so they can be punished when they want. It is highly frowned upon and grounds for immediate dismissal.
My specific problem was wanting to have sex with a long time lady friend of mine and having to address that problem with my Sir considering that we are under a prearranged contractual agreement. I never want to tick off my Sir and this was a big issue.
The thread can be viewed by looking up my username in the search.
Do you mean to imply that I somehow get a thrill by posting these topics to those who are not in the lifestyle? No I do not.
I came here seeking advice on a personal matter because we are a well known couple in the BDSM world and I didn't feel like I could talk to those in my community about my specific problem without fear of rejection so I came here.
I've implied nothing other than my personal distaste, but I'm long over the shock.
You've handled this thread appropriately. We both know the details of the last thread and agree it should not be a repeat. The vanilla forum here can't handle it.
We have a contract and a prearranged agreement that sets these things in stone.
I have already gone through school. I am a certified TESOL teacher. I teach English to Korean students online. That way I never have to leave home.
As for hobbies I guess you could say that I live them on a daily basis but as for more mundane things like my love of pro wrestling and my interest in politics we have arrangements for those things too.
Thanks for answering. I saw in another post that you were married at 18. I'm guessing this arrangement surfaced during the marriage, or did your husband and you start working it out prior to the marriage?
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