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So I go out on a couple of dates with this guy. He seems to be really interested in me and I think he's okay. Well we went to a local wine bar I frequent that has a lot of movers and shakers... ie people with money.
So some people I know spot me in the crowd and start waving. I of course have to go speak to them so I give him a few tidbits about who is who and their professions and status while walking towards the group. I start off introducing him to everyone and before I can tell everyone who he is one lady in the group asked him his name and he hesitated then meekly said Leo... Now I'm like wait didn't you tell me your name was J... at any rate I kept of a good image but afterwards I was like wtf is your name?
He then said J... is his middle name and Leo is his first and he wanted to go by Leo.. because it seemed more fitting for the environment.
I stopped talking to him after that. I don't know if he was telling the truth or not, I didn't ask for his DL but I do know it left a bad feeling in my mouth.
Thoughts?
oww once I met a friend out at a restaurant and he appeared to be on a date. As I was walking out I said hi [Friends name]... the other guy blanched and was like what did you call him.
I know false names aren't anything new but why do it.
Like people seemed reluctant to give a potential love/sex interest their business card but' chatty kathy" at happy hour gets a card without a second thought. True there is no threat that Chatty Kathy will turn into a psycho ex but shouldn't you trust people you want to "lay" down with?
Thoughts?
Since you asked...I think you're making a mountain out of a mole hill. Heck, I give a different name depending on the situation. If I know that I'm in "fleeting situation"...ordering take out food, for instance, I give the name Jay because it's a lot easier to spell and remember than my real first name. I know lots of people who use first or middle names depending on the situation. I don't think it's that big a deal.
Hypothetical: In the wine bar situation you described, suppose your date's first name was Jeremiah. Given the setting, Leo is a shorter, easier name to remember. If it's his middle name, what is the problem.
If things seemed to be going well and the name issue is the only reason you stopped seeing him...WTF???? Did you even bother to confirm his real name? Easy enough to do these days. Just ask him for his ID.
i have been wanting to legally change my name since forever. even back in jr high i tried to spell my name dif.
i hate my given name, always have. as for my last name, now i am using my BIRTH last name Mahoney instead of adopted last name. now if i could just incorporate Beloved fam members for middle name(s) i'd be ready....
well, i keep changing my mind for 1st name too. probably just going to go with Jiinxsay, as i AM jinxed.
Weakness of character? Reeks of insecurity? No wonder so many people on this board are single and miserable. You jump at any chance to discount a guy.
Many people go by their middle name and a lot of parents even plan to call their kids by their less formal middle name but give them a serious first name to use in business settings if they wish. So while a guy goes by Ryan growing up, maybe he'd rather be Charles when he runs for congress. I've known many people who live their life going by their nickname, but when they have a job interview they don't want to say "Hi, I'm M.J., Boo, Gamble, Jimbo, T-Bone, etc." (and I've known people who go by each of those names).
I'm of latin descent and since most Americans can't pronounce my name in Spanish I give the English version but what I got from this guy was a bad vibe... as if he was lying to me, so I cut him loose.
So you know him by one name, then you call him on his celly. Then another female calls him on his celly and he's got another name!
Baah! Boo! Buh-bye!!!
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