Uhm What's Your Name?

[Raena77]

It does sound fishy. But many of my friends go by nicknames. Many people over the years know me as one name then friends of the past call me by my nickname. Then they are like um what did they call you?

[catharsis]

Originally Posted by recuerdeme

[recuerdos]

So I go out on a couple of dates with this guy. He seems to be really interested in me and I think he's okay. Well we went to a local wine bar I frequent that has a lot of movers and shakers... ie people with money.

So some people I know spot me in the crowd and start waving. I of course have to go speak to them so I give him a few tidbits about who is who and their professions and status while walking towards the group. I start off introducing him to everyone and before I can tell everyone who he is one lady in the group asked him his name and he hesitated then meekly said Leo... Now I'm like wait didn't you tell me your name was J... at any rate I kept of a good image but afterwards I was like wtf is your name?

He then said J... is his middle name and Leo is his first and he wanted to go by Leo.. because it seemed more fitting for the environment.

I stopped talking to him after that. I don't know if he was telling the truth or not, I didn't ask for his DL but I do know it left a bad feeling in my mouth.

Thoughts?

oww once I met a friend out at a restaurant and he appeared to be on a date. As I was walking out I said hi [Friends name]... the other guy blanched and was like what did you call him.

I know false names aren't anything new but why do it.

Like people seemed reluctant to give a potential love/sex interest their business card but' chatty kathy" at happy hour gets a card without a second thought. True there is no threat that Chatty Kathy will turn into a psycho ex but shouldn't you trust people you want to "lay" down with?

Thoughts?

So you take this guy to a bar and tell him there are a lot of "movers and shakers" and he comes up with a name more suited to "your" crowd so not to hurt your "mover and shaker" status. I'd say the guy deserves kudos for being so quick as to recognize and understand how shallow people in such crowds as that can be, that they would judge someone with an odd name. He's willing to play the part, I'd say he is a keeper!

[swgirl926]

The name thing by itself wouldn't necessarily bother me. But, your intuition told you that something was "off", and none of us can discern as much from an online posting as you can from the actual situation.

Having said that, I know many people that go by different names, given the circumstances. Some people prefer their middle names; some people hate the person they're named after; some use an altered version of their given name because it's easier for other people to pronounce. We called one guy by a shortened version of his last name (which also can be a first name) because there were two people in our department with the same first name.

Heck, there's one guy that to this day calls me "Penelope" (that is nowhere near what my name is). That was because people used to call me "Tina" and "Heather" (neither of which are my name, who only knows where that came from). The guy kept calling me the wrong name and, being my sarcastic self, I said, "Get it right; it's 'Penelope'. But, I would have no problem telling a date this story if we were out somewhere and this guy showed up and said "Hey, Penelope!". From what you posted, the guy seemed weird about it. What's up with that?

[donie1]

Originally Posted by catharsis

So you take this guy to a bar and tell him there are a lot of "movers and shakers" and he comes up with a name more suited to "your" crowd so not to hurt your "mover and shaker" status. I'd say the guy deserves kudos for being so quick as to recognize and understand how shallow people in such crowds as that can be, that they would judge someone with an odd name. He's willing to play the part, I'd say he is a keeper!

I agree. He thought it was more appropriate to use his first name in your environment. He thought Leo sounded more classier then Joe or whatever his middle name was. He gave you a good response when you asked him about his name.

Really, though, I'd read your posts for about a year now. You always make such a big deal out of nothing and you don't know how to communicate with others or understand people.

Work on yourself and you'll find someone that you're compatible with.

You're nitpicking on everyone you meet and go out with. Start to understand why you're doing that and try to understand why others do what they do when they're around you.

[recuerdeme]

Originally Posted by donie1

I agree. He thought it was more appropriate to use his first name in your environment. He thought Leo sounded more classier then Joe or whatever his middle name was. He gave you a good response when you asked him about his name.

Really, though, I'd read your posts for about a year now. You always make such a big deal out of nothing and you don't know how to communicate with others or understand people.

Work on yourself and you'll find someone that you're compatible with.

You're nitpicking on everyone you meet and go out with. Start to understand why you're doing that and try to understand why others do what they do when they're around you.

I'm a very good communicator.

And I don't nitpick but I do observe and listen to that inner voice (well sometimes) that says something isn't right.

Thanks for following my posts

[Yzette]

Telling you one name and another woman another name wouldn't sit well with me, either. Something is a little bit "off" about that, and it sounds like your gut agrees.