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That's right. Why just leave it all to the guy? I would understand if she was not interested in him but she is. All these rules .
Well, she wasn't interested in him for a boyfriend - just a FWB. But now that he asked her out again - maybe she is interested. Then again - he waited until Thursday so by rule, she has to say no.
I'm with dewdrop here. If you liked him enough to care, then why not send him a short follow-up message, just something like "what's up" or "how's going". But it seems like a 2nd date is in order? Let us know how it goes
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That's right. Why just leave it all to the guy? I would understand if she was not interested in him but she is. All these rules .
Ditto ^ . I'd just message the guy and invite him out for something very casual; see how he reacts. I don't see anything wrong with the girl letting the guy know she's interested. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. And nothing to lose at this point.
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Edit: Oops - I missed something. Didn't realize he has, indeed, asked her out again. I don't think 4 days is a big deal.
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That's right. Why just leave it all to the guy? I would understand if she was not interested in him but she is. All these rules .
It's not about rules, but I do believe if a guy is interested, he will make contact after a first date. Why wouldn't he? Yes, the woman could do it but if the guy was interested enough, she wouldn't have to.
It's not about rules, but I do believe if a guy is interested, he will make contact after a first date. Why wouldn't he? Yes, the woman could do it but if the guy was interested enough, she wouldn't have to.
Not necessarily. He might have been slammed at work. Heck, after my first date with MrsCPG, I had to go on a television shoot that lasted five days. Then I had to look for her number which took two days more. By then, she had gone out of town on biz. So we weren't able to get together until two weeks after our first date. In the meantime, we had both gone out with other people.
Yeah, but that was probably back in the olden days like when I was dating...nowadays, with texts and emails and a billion ways to contact someone instantly, there is no such thing as being too busy to send a quick message. If you REALLY want to talk to someone, you'll make it happen.
It's not about rules, but I do believe if a guy is interested, he will make contact after a first date. Why wouldn't he? Yes, the woman could do it but if the guy was interested enough, she wouldn't have to.
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Quit being lazy guys!
What if the woman is more interested in a second date than the guy is? I don't see the harm in asking for a second date. People don't always fall in love after the first date - or even the 5th 10th or 20th dates. Things aren't always equal in the beginning. Maybe the woman is more interested in the beginning - and maybe the guy comes around a little later. Are you really going to not go after something you like because you think that he should do it? If something is worth it - you put in some effort.
What if the woman is more interested in a second date than the guy is? I don't see the harm in asking for a second date. People don't always fall in love after the first date - or even the 5th 10th or 20th dates. Things aren't always equal in the beginning. Maybe the woman is more interested in the beginning - and maybe the guy comes around a little later. Are you really going to not go after something you like because you think that he should do it? If something is worth it - you put in some effort.
Pursuing a guy who was not interested/lukewarm about me has never worked in the past, so I just try not to do it these days. I have texted guys after first dates telling them that I had a good time and we should get together again (just because I know I can come off as very reserved and hard to read), but anything more than that would be too much, I think. Guys that like me have shown that they don't need much encouragement to ask me out again.
How do you show you are interested for another date? You wouldn't ask like he did?
I wouldn's ask him out for a second date, but that's just me. I thank them for dinner/drinks/coffee or whatever we did and if I am itnerested I'd add that "I had a great time tonight." If they did too, they would ask me out again. That has being my experience so far.
Now, I have asked guys out for like the 4th or 5th date, but never for the first three.
OP, good luck in the date. Let us know how it goes.
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