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Tell you friends you want to try somewhere else, if it bothers you. If you think that he's gonna purposely mess with you, why frequent the same places?
But if you aren't gonna do that, at least find somewhere else to sit within the bar(s) so that you don't have to SEE him.
Show up with a new guy and your ex will find a new place to hang out
I was going to suggest this too .
If he's not going to a new place and your friends don't want to go to new places either, the other option is sucking it up and not showing that you're hurt.
Yikes! I'm sorry it didn't work out. I remember the situation you were in and our previous public and private discussions about it.
I agree with those who suggest finding another hangout. Consider it a way of being kind to yourself: You're sparing yourself the hurt of seeing him and of stirring up memories of your past good times there.
So, tonight I went out to one of my favorite local bars to get my mind off the situation. This same bar used to be "OUR" bar, meaning me and my ex. We broke up less than 1 week ago and tonight he showed up and sat down at the other end of the bar. He made sure to say hi across the bar to a mutual friends of ours sitting next to me to make it known that he was there and I would notice. It's sunday, so it was quiet in there and I was with the main group. I parked right out front so I KNOW that he intentionally went in there & I think it's too soon to be seeing eachother. I immediately finished my drink and left. I had to walk past him, held my chin up and walked right by him to get out the door. For the past year he and I have gone to that place. It was so hard to see him I went home and just lost it.
How do you handle such a situation when he shows up there? or at any place that I happen to be in?
If you are not comfortable with the thought of running into him, then why would you even go there, knowing that it's a place he frequents?
Last edited by ChessieMom; 01-16-2012 at 07:23 AM..
If you are not comfortable with the though of running into him, then why would you even go there, knowing that it's a place he frequents?
Close friends or not, if they are decent people and are informed of your painful breakup, they would understand and help. A simple request of "let's try something/somewhere new" is really not too much to ask. I understand how hard breakups are and would help any friend or acquaintance to deal with the situation if they bring it up. I can't imagine your friends behaving differently. If they act uncaring, it's time to ditch these "mutual friends". There are people EVERYWHERE, it's really not hard to make new friends and get into a new Friday nights routine.
I usually use breakup as the perfect excuse to indulge myself and try out new and possibly expensive hobbies.
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