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I am currently involved in a long distance relationship with a guy I went to high school with. We are now and until this weekend it had been 14 years since seeing each other last. We live 473 miles away from each other and have talked about moving closer to each other and I thought it was a go. I spent this weekend with him although I was unsure of things so I rented a room and did things the old fashioned date style. We had a good time and being that the chemistry was there we slept together. I went back to my hotel room and slept so that I could go back home the next morning. We had a long goodbye and he held me for about 30 minutes and kissed me. I got home yesterday and while we normally communicate through text and calls several times a day, I have only heard from him once and Im getting nervous. Im not sure if this is normal and im just overthinking things or if I have cause for concern.
You have a right to be nervous. Not because he is not talking as often, but because relationships are in general very unpredictable and volatile. Whenever something changes, the whole relationship could change. So hang in there and see how it plays out. You have changed your relationship and now it's time to see which direction it takes you. If he changed his mind about you two being together, the sooner you find out the better for you so you could move on. But give him time. He might need time to analyze/evaluate his feelings and decide what he wants to do. Give yourself time as well. Make sure things are the way you imagined them to be.
100% honesty here: it was too much intensity too soon and now he has backed off.
I realize you two got caught up in the moment, etc. and from your perspective, you did already "know" him...or at least the 14-years-ago him. Things built and you two slept together and in the morning when that building excitement was no longer there, he faded away.
Be strong. To me it sounds like this is something that isn't going to go from here.
100% honesty here: it was too much intensity too soon and now he has backed off.
I realize you two got caught up in the moment, etc. and from your perspective, you did already "know" him...or at least the 14-years-ago him. Things built and you two slept together and in the morning when that building excitement was no longer there, he faded away.
Be strong. To me it sounds like this is something that isn't going to go from here.
Hugs to you.
You are absolutely right! Last night he called and we talked. He said he didnt think things were going to work and that he was afraid of one of us moving so far away and it not working for my kids sake. He didnt want my kids to be tossed in the middle and in a way I can respect that but it doesnt hurt any less.
100% honesty here: it was too much intensity too soon and now he has backed off.
I realize you two got caught up in the moment, etc. and from your perspective, you did already "know" him...or at least the 14-years-ago him. Things built and you two slept together and in the morning when that building excitement was no longer there, he faded away.
Be strong. To me it sounds like this is something that isn't going to go from here.
Hugs to you.
Yep, that was my feeling too.
And relationships like this mean a lot of sacrifice, something both parties really need to take time to consider.
When people aren't up to the challenge they are wise to bow out gracefully.
You are absolutely right! Last night he called and we talked. He said he didnt think things were going to work and that he was afraid of one of us moving so far away and it not working for my kids sake. He didnt want my kids to be tossed in the middle and in a way I can respect that but it doesnt hurt any less.
Oops, just saw this after I made my last post.
I'm sorry for your disappointment
I don't think he's a bad guy and I don't think he intended to hurt you.
He just got a huge wake-up reality call and realized he was about to bite off more than he could chew. Sadly, he probably couldn't "see" that until your visit made everything more real for him.
I'm sorry, housewife. As someone who has been in a long-distance relationship before and had my heart broken in a similar way, you have my sympathies.
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