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My wife is an accomplished, educated executive for a fortune 100 company(In Chicago). If I told her "A good woman is all about taking care of the home!" there would be quite an animated discussion (In Chicago) around that (And I strongly suspect I would be on the wrong end of it)
Don't get me wrong, she likes Home Depot (In Chicago) just fine, and she has plenty of ideas about how our house (In Chicago) should look, but she's not Suzy Homemaker. Never has been, and never will be. But she is the love of my life (In Chicago), and I am a (much) better person for being her husband. However, if, at the beginning of our burgeoning relationship (Not in Chicago), I had used this silly, pointless litmus test to vet "Misses Right" I would have "missed" in the worst possible way.
Do you watch a lot of (Chicago) romantic comedies? You know those aren't real, don't you? Mrs. Right can't be boiled down to a quaint anecdote, or sweeping generalization (Not even in Chicago). And honestly, if you need an internet message board to tell you if someone is right for you, you probably shouldn't be in a relationship (In Chicago)
(This is how you take a non-Chicago post and make it ALL ABOUT CHICAGO BABY!!)
You'd find much more constructive and helpful responses in the "Relationship" forum. That's why it's there. Speaking solely for myself (but I'm sure others agree), I'm interested in discussing Chicago-specific topics here, not other people's personal love lives. There are other threads here that broach the same general topic as yours, and those are usually moved to the right forum or closed.
Seriously, I'm just trying to be helpful.
This is the relationship forum.
Anyway, OP cute story, the lady that advised you knows you, so it was/is applicable.
I wouldn't take a first date to a hardware store. but if you have had a few dates, you could use the pretext that you need to change drapes, or need new paint for your bathroom. That will draw out the shyer type girl, and you'll see whether the girl has an interest in your home, her home.
Otherwise, if you don't know the person well at all, some would hesitate, thinking it pushy to interject their ideas.
But, carry on.
And, there are always a few jerks on these threads, the way they get their jollies.....pick on and belittle someone, they are sad and lonely types, don't you think.
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my biggest desire in the world is to marry my boyfriend but everything has a time to do so i'm not looking at the decorating stuff AT THE MOMENT. but i'm looking at clothes and make up products mostly for him to admire me more. so it's not a correct criterion your friend's mother just tries to look like a pundit lol.
My wife is an accomplished, educated executive for a fortune 100 company(In Chicago). If I told her "A good woman is all about taking care of the home!" there would be quite an animated discussion (In Chicago) around that (And I strongly suspect I would be on the wrong end of it)
Don't get me wrong, she likes Home Depot (In Chicago) just fine, and she has plenty of ideas about how our house (In Chicago) should look, but she's not Suzy Homemaker. Never has been, and never will be. But she is the love of my life (In Chicago), and I am a (much) better person for being her husband. However, if, at the beginning of our burgeoning relationship (Not in Chicago), I had used this silly, pointless litmus test to vet "Misses Right" I would have "missed" in the worst possible way.
Do you watch a lot of (Chicago) romantic comedies? You know those aren't real, don't you? Mrs. Right can't be boiled down to a quaint anecdote, or sweeping generalization (Not even in Chicago). And honestly, if you need an internet message board to tell you if someone is right for you, you probably shouldn't be in a relationship (In Chicago)
(This is how you take a non-Chicago post and make it ALL ABOUT CHICAGO BABY!!)
The problem here is that I never said you should tell any woman "let's go to Home Depot, so I can see if your into taking care of the home". I agree, that would cause a problem. The key is to (silently) discover the type of person she is: "get-it-girl", or wife material.
This is the relationship forum.
Anyway, OP cute story, the lady that advised you knows you, so it was/is applicable.
I wouldn't take a first date to a hardware store. but if you have had a few dates, you could use the pretext that you need to change drapes, or need new paint for your bathroom. That will draw out the shyer type girl, and you'll see whether the girl has an interest in your home, her home.
Otherwise, if you don't know the person well at all, some would hesitate, thinking it pushy to interject their ideas.
But, carry on.
And, there are always a few jerks on these threads, the way they get their jollies.....pick on and belittle someone, they are sad and lonely types, don't you think.
Fellas. About 10 years ago, I was speaking to my best friends mother, about dating. And, with her being more mature and wiser, I asked her... how do I know when I've found Misses Right? She said, "son if you want to know if you've found a good girl... take her to Home Depot". She said, "yeah, even if your not there to buy anything... take her to Home Depot". And, me being the young buck that I was, couldn't quite grasp the way she was schooling me. So, I asked her what she meant by that, only to be given the same reply, "just take her to Home Depot". So, after concluding that she'd given me everything I needed to know, I gave her a hug, said goodbye, and walked away confused. That week, I most have told everyone I knew about our conversation. But, no one understood what she meant. So, I finally went back to my friends house, and asked her to explain. She said, "son if you take her to Home Depot and she's ready to leave shortly after you get there, then she's not a good women". She added, "if all she's about is shopping at the mall, getting her hair and nails done, or going to the club, then she's not for you". She said, "if you take a good woman to Home Depot, you will not be able to get her to leave". "A good woman is all about taking care of the home... not trying to party and look good". "She doesn't care much about that stuff ". "She'd rather look at flowers, wall paper, window treatments and such, seeking ideas on how to decorate a home". At that point, I could not have felt better. I finally got it, and it made perfect sense. So, there you have it, fellas. Let me know what you think. Also, I'm sure there's some other ideas out there that would be interesting to hear. Feel free to chime in. I hope this thread will help many of you, to find Misses Right. As always, thank you in advance. And, goodbye for now.
I have a question for you? How do I as a woman find Mr. Right? How do I know he is Mr. Right can you help me? Or anyone???
Anyways...yes that is a sign...
But also becoming friends...and talking and GETTING TO KNOW each other is the best way...
Asking question you feel is important...like what you want out of life, so are you religions, do you like animal (if you are a big animal lover) what you want and don't want in a sex life? etc etc...does help in a big way don´t you think?
I mean you can just base it on going to the home depot...but it does help to you to get started....at least you know something about her from the get go ...it does help...on that...for starters...
This thread was originally in the Chicago forum, that's why there are some Chicago-related responses.
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your friend's mother just tries to look like a pundit lol.
But, is it ridiculous for others to share theirs?
That week, I most have told everyone I knew about our conversation. But, no one understood what she meant. So, I finally went back to my friends house, and asked her to explain. She said, "son if you take her to Home Depot and she's ready to leave shortly after you get there, then she's not a good women". She added, "if all she's about is shopping at the mall, getting her hair and nails done, or going to the club, then she's not for you". She said, "if you take a good woman to Home Depot, you will not be able to get her to leave". "A good woman is all about taking care of the home... not trying to party and look good". "She doesn't care much about that stuff ". "She'd rather look at flowers, wall paper, window treatments and such, seeking ideas on how to decorate a home". At that point, I could not have felt better. I finally got it, and it made perfect sense. 
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