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I was dating a woman who was a bad communicator.. I had to get rid of her.. There was no way i was going to going through that long term. She didn't understand. She thought I just needed to adjust to her moods.. Oh heck no..She had to go..
Lol I didn't read all the responses, but let me say it again...when I'm upset about somethin and put you on ignore, leave me alone til I'm calm and ready to talk as if the convo prolongs, you may not lik what I would say.
Now really, I'm undesirable because I don't respond we'll during the heat on the convo. I'm not a man becase I respond better when I'm calm. Come on people.
In any case. I'm tghe type who thinks there is always another p out there so I she can't deal, keep it moving.
But don't judge as because I deal with things differently. Are we suppose to be the same?
Yes! My ex bf did that. I hated it, it's really annoying. In my other relationship I was married and if we argued, and I tried to go to another room or leave for a break, he'd follow me around the house or try to prevent me from leaving.
As you can tell, I really dont enjoy conflict in general but for some reason they both enjoyed having conflict. We were completely opposite.
I had girlfriends who would run away when we had arguments when I was a teen/ early twenty something. I would sometimes chase them so that we could talk it out. When I look back, alot of those girls were immature. I think of one girl I dated for two years and she was an attention who re. I somehow learned to not pick girls like that because I couldn't deal with it. It's pretty immature to run off and sulk. If you two can't sit there like grown ups and talk it out, then you are probably not right for each other. There's a reason those women are ex's.
I am different I guess. I would never run away. I always wanted to fix the problem right then if possible. I could not tolerate that from a women today. But that's just me. I think people who run and hide are trying to control the other person mentally. In some way you get off on them chasing you. Makes you feel in control. Makes you feel needed and wanted. The argument that I need time to "whatever" is a good cop out. You love it when they chase you down. Makes you feel in charge.
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I'm an introvert I need time to think and process and then come back to it later.
That is believable for some. It seems even rational for some. Some people have very bad tempers, however, in my experience women who tried to do it to me years back were control freaks. I guess I shouldn't make it seem like all women do it for that reason, but from my experience it was a control issue. When I realized it and didn't chase them down, they got more upset.
I can't help but find the silent treatment is immature. When a man does the silent treatment I see him as being an immature juvenile little girl.
But if you feel you must get away and not talk then at least show the decency to say I can't speak about this right now I'm too upset. Let me think for a while and we can discuss this later when I'm calmer. That way you show more maturity, and that you care enough to put thought into how you want to convey your feelings/thoughts and that you aren't leaving her over one argument without trying to work it out first. Just my thoughts.
That is believable for some. It seems even rational for some. Some people have very bad tempers, however, in my experience women who tried to do it to me years back were control freaks. I guess I shouldn't make it seem like all women do it for that reason, but from my experience it was a control issue. When I realized it and didn't chase them down, they got more upset.
Actually, I think my best friend does the silent treatment for control reasons (she does it to me too).
I don't like having outstanding unresolved issues but I may not be able to deal with it in the moment when someone has a bad temper or doesn't want to listen to my side and compromise at all. Sometimes I may even feel hurt or sad and just need a moment to myself.
It's a young woman/girl thing. Women don't do that once they've matured.
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