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We've only done it twice. I hate it - I basically can't sleep all night. My hubby is out like a light no matter what.
man I wished I could do that. Be out like a light when it comes to sleep! lol.
I don't have too many arguements, and most of the time I go to bed with already having made up with her. If this situation happened I don't think I'd sleep at all, but at least the morning sex would be great!
Don't start arguing after 6pm, that is a good rule, because that is when tempers are short, you had a bad day at work, the kids were bratty all day, everyone is tired. When the hackles start to rise about an issue, make a conscious choice to go work out, take a shower, or whatever, to not start a fight after 6pm. You can always fight about it in the morning.
In general, I agree you should not let problems that are causing linger longer than they need to. However, I have also found at times, it is best to withdraw until both people can regain some perspective. Arguing in the heat of the moment usually just makes matter's worse. If it is late, sometimes it is best to just get a good nights rest, and resolve the issue in the morning.
In general, I agree you should not let problems that are causing linger longer than they need to. However, I have also found at times, it is best to withdraw until both people can regain some perspective. Arguing in the heat of the moment usually just makes matter's worse. If it is late, sometimes it is best to just get a good nights rest, and resolve the issue in the morning.
You are so right. I think one reason we don't fight much (besides that we usually agree on the big things) is that I like to stop and take a few minutes to digest everything and then I usually find that I can just get over it and move on and that it was something stupid.
A few seconds is all it takes to remind yourself that this is your partner - a person who usually wants the best for you and for your family. Not some enemy.
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Usually people see clearer in the sober light of day. If you can't resolve your problems that night and you can get a good night's rest just sleep it off. Sometimes I don't like leaving things hanging because I'll keep myself up worrying about it.
i used to go through hell with my ex. she believed that one should not go to bed upset and because of that, she would not allow me to sleep.
Some people are never satisfied with any result. Personally, I sleep it off and start the morning as if nothing happened. New day...start it off with a clean slate.
Not all conflicts can be resolved in such a short turn around. Using this logic you're likely to just sweep issues under the rug in the interest of following a rule, rather than truly resolve anything.
We rarely argue, but there have been a few times when we went to sleep (different houses) still upset over something. It always gets resolved in the morning.
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Some people are never satisfied with any result. Personally, I sleep it off and start the morning as if nothing happened. New day...start it off with a clean slate.
Sometimes that works...but other times merely burying ugly feelings allows the animosity between people to grow and return, with a revenge. The sequel can sometimes be worse than the original.
Letting something fester over night is a bad thing. You'll both try to ignore it and someone will get bitter. It can lead to very bad things. I've been there.
Fight it out before you go to bed.
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