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You're 31 and are freaking out about not having kids yet? I think you may be worrying too much.
Are you financially prepared to have children? If so, then as you date make sure that the woman knows this is a goal of yours. Not something to bring up on the first date of course, but don't wait a few years to discuss it.
I'm not sure where you live, but in my city its not at all unusual for people to make it to their mid 30's or even 40's before getting married and having children.
I see this a lot too here. Fellow new yorker here.
Seriously, I do. And I think I am the only male out there who actually wants kids. I see so many dads that never see their kids and so many single mothers without men around to help them. There also seems to be a lack of women who want to have children that don't already have them.
What does a guy need to do to find a girl that wants to have children?
(p.s.: I'm 31 and kind of freaking out about not having kids already.)
Go for it bro, unless you are being a hypocrite. You may actually be saying it has to be from your seed. If not, few relationships move faster then when men are down for marrying single mothers. You'll have plenty of choice, and can go from zero to diapers and bills in 3 months!
Go for it bro, unless you are being a hypocrite. You may actually be saying it has to be from your seed. If not, few relationships move faster then when men are down for marrying single mothers. You'll have plenty of choice, and can go from zero to diapers and bills in 3 months!
Seriously, I do. And I think I am the only male out there who actually wants kids. I see so many dads that never see their kids and so many single mothers without men around to help them. There also seems to be a lack of women who want to have children that don't already have them.
What does a guy need to do to find a girl that wants to have children?
(p.s.: I'm 31 and kind of freaking out about not having kids already.)
Have you tried the good old fashion method? Finding a woman who shares the same goals and values. Committing to her (marriage) and then starting a family. Many women want kids, but not just with anyone (not saying there's anything wrong with you). They want more than just a guy to impregnate them...they want it all. If you're not willing to step up and be that one, then ...
Actually, almost all men do want kids, at least the ones I know do.
I'm 19 and I already want to be a dad. If I were married, had a good paying job, my own home and if the cost of living were lower, I probably would have had a child already. I know being a parent is rarely easy, and I can imagine it wouldn't be but I already feel the desire to be a dad.
I don't want to wait until 30/31 like my parents did... I want to be a young dad and hopefully be a young grandpa. Plus, I'd like to have as many as 5 kids, so I'd rather start young.
Seriously, I do. And I think I am the only male out there who actually wants kids. I see so many dads that never see their kids and so many single mothers without men around to help them. There also seems to be a lack of women who want to have children that don't already have them.
What does a guy need to do to find a girl that wants to have children?
(p.s.: I'm 31 and kind of freaking out about not having kids already.)
I think the correct process should be.
1. Dating.
2. Relationship.
3. Marriage.
4. Children.
Any male or female who has babies without a relationship commitment called marriage in order to raise a child together and create a proper family unit role model for the child would be irresponsible.
(By the way, at the age of 31 you shouldn't be calling women "girls"... that's a major obstacle to finding a woman worthwhile to have a relationship with.)
Any male or female who has babies without a relationship commitment called marriage in order to raise a child together and create a proper family unit role model for the child would be irresponsible.
(By the way, at the age of 31 you shouldn't be calling women "girls"... that's a major obstacle to finding a woman worthwhile to have a relationship with.)
Agreed. Women is a better term. And not saying she is "cute". "Hot" or "beautiful", like a sunset in Tahiti.
Seriously, I do. And I think I am the only male out there who actually wants kids. I see so many dads that never see their kids and so many single mothers without men around to help them. There also seems to be a lack of women who want to have children that don't already have them.
What does a guy need to do to find a girl that wants to have children?
(p.s.: I'm 31 and kind of freaking out about not having kids already.)
You have no worries at 31. An attractive or even a so so 31 year old man is a valuable prize to many women. Most women date and get fed up with guys like me who see no reason to settle down and have children. The first thing I would look for (next to a spouse) is the question: are you financially able to support a family?
Didn't expect to open a thread titled "I want babies!" and find a single male OP. If this were a Miller Lite commercial, he would be the guy drinking the "other" light beer and getting chastised by his buddies for being unmanly. Man up!
On a serious note, I can empathize with the desire to become a parent. It certainly isn't what I want right now, but I can certainly see why some guys want to be dads. What I can't see is why any of them would be in a hurry about it at 31. That undermines one of the great benefits of being male, which is that we have basically no biological clock.
My uncle sired his first young at 48, and his second at 53. What was he doing while he was in his 20s and 30s and still virile and attractive? Whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted, and most importantly, WHOever he wanted! Certainly not being in a hurry to settle down with one chick and start making babies. He just made sure to rake in enough dough that once he got old, fat, and bald, he could marry a much younger chick -- which he did. The guy is a freaking CASE STUDY on how a male should go through life.
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