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Now for the big question. Is the money in your husbands account money he busted his ***** for, or is it money you busted yours for? Not only that, why do you feel entitled to money someone else worked themselves to the bone for?
Now for the big question. Is the money in your husbands account money he busted his ***** for, or is it money you busted yours for? Not only that, why do you feel entitled to money someone else worked themselves to the bone for?
Because they're married. I earn significantly more than my husband and it would never dawn on me to have such disparity in my marriage. We're a family, not just two working roommates.
Now for the big question. Is the money in your husbands account money he busted his ***** for, or is it money you busted yours for? Not only that, why do you feel entitled to money someone else worked themselves to the bone for?
Where are all your supporters in breaking men out of slavery to women?
Because they're married. I earn significantly more than my husband and it would never dawn on me to have such disparity in my marriage. We're a family, not just two working roommates.
I agree with this. Separate accounts are for cohabitation, not marriage.
I don't understand the "keep everything spearate and pull out calculators" crowd. I also do not understand the "he need to take care of her/man always pays" crowd either. No, they both need to take care of each other. Not sure why that is so hard for a lot of people to figure out.
OP, I'm sorry you mentioned anything to your husband, I think the timing was wrong. I would have waited until after you set foot in the USA. These types are always thinking of "their" money and how to guard it, he may be spending more for now, there is a reason. His actions I believe are a temporary thing as I think you will find out after your return. Bank up money so you can make it on your own, I can see that light bulb go off in his head. He's been alerted to the fact that you won't go with his way of living. Good luck.
I really don't understand the whole we're married so everything is both of ours thing. How does your being married have any effect at all on his job and the money he earns? Or vice versa?
I really don't understand the whole we're married so everything is both of ours thing. How does your being married have any effect at all on his job and the money he earns? Or vice versa?
When I was married it all went in one pot. It would have seemed odd any other way. And we never fought about money...
I really don't understand the whole we're married so everything is both of ours thing. How does your being married have any effect at all on his job and the money he earns? Or vice versa?
For some people, to repeat what I said earlier, getting married means you become a family. A family is a unit, an entity of sorts, but it's never comprised of one individual. It's we not me.
Um, the real question is if they have talked about it.
I can't believe how many people come on here and they haven't even approached the topic with their spouses.
I wonder how many people are afraid to...or are they collecting ammo to use on their spouse...or are they just trying to understand what's normal...?
Let me trim it down.
If you have a problem (ANY problem), talk about it with your partner first.
None of this "he should know" or "if she cared, I wouldn't have to say" garbage.
No one is a freakin' mind reader and they might not have ANY clue you are hurting or feeling like they are being insensitive.
Second point - if it doesn't feel right, IT AIN'T RIGHT. No matter what anyone's opinions on here are about what's normal or what everyone else does or thinks. It's YOUR relationship. It has to be run on YOUR terms.
LOVE. THIS. POST!!!
I'm amazed at these simplistic questions as well.
I mean these people are with their partners for YEARS it seems, but yet they are AFRAID to ask or talk to them about anything.
Like, where they do that at?
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