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I dated an Indian girl for almost 2 years and the whole thing about dealing with that culture sucked. Her dad was racist to anybody who wasn't Indian, or for that matter in their specific CASTE, and so he would say things like "i would never even show up to a wedding like that" etc etc. It is normal to get weird stares from other Indians who don't like it, and also you face being outcasted by the community because they don't agree often either.
In the end, that relationship ended.. that problem being one of the causes, but far from the main cause
I have also dated a Colombian girl that went much better, no problems with the family or anything like that. The people from South America are a lot more similar to Americans than other nations. In the end, there was still kind of a problem, and for South Americans, they are just far too open with the other sex.. it ended up being too much for me and it ended. I still keep in contact with her now, she's a nice girl and a good friend who I can sleep with when I see her, but I'd never be able to handle an actual relationship with her.
Funny! I am Indian and never dated Indian women, but definitely know of the attitude you experienced. It disgusts me, and I made it very clear to my parents that I am American. Take it or leave it. That said, my wife is Colombian, and the family's story is similar to my folks. The parents have been a-ok, albeit some initial hesitation. What you don't know, scares you I suppose...Indian societies are very close minded.
Funny! I am Indian and never dated Indian women, but definitely know of the attitude you experienced. It disgusts me, and I made it very clear to my parents that I am American. Take it or leave it. That said, my wife is Colombian, and the family's story is similar to my folks. The parents have been a-ok, albeit some initial hesitation. What you don't know, scares you I suppose...Indian societies are very close minded.
I will always have a place in my heart for Colombia. Where in Colombia is your wife originally from, or her family? Do you guys listen to Vallenato or eat Bandeja Paisa?
No matter how much we sing 'We are the world' and in political correctness, hide our race cards, we should accept that our country is not based on tolerance. Culture clashes and prejudice abound. But still, there is nothing wrong with standing on your own feet and living your own life. Like many white families when their daughters date and marry black men, maybe her family is not ready to embrace your union. And some people maybe be confused. But there is actually nothing biologically nor even biblically wrong with you being together. Live and love forever!
I have a LOT of asian friends and most of my asian male friends cant stand it when asian women date non-asian guys. Funny thing is, all the really HOT asian girls I know (like 8-10 in looks) are all dating and/or married to black guys. I guess mostly because they are all "fitness folks" they have a lot in common.
That's interesting, all of the hot Asian girls I know are all dating white guys
I'm Asian and most of my dates are white or hispanic. I haven't noticed any overt looks from strangers. Mind over matter. If you don't mind, then it doesn't matter.
That's interesting, all of the hot Asian girls I know are all dating white guys
I'm Asian and most of my dates are white or hispanic. I haven't noticed any overt looks from strangers. Mind over matter. If you don't mind, then it doesn't matter.
I'm British-Indian and I went to a Japanese resturant in LA's little Tokyo with a Japanese-American lady just before Xmas; they were some guys from Japan on the the table next to us and they looked very pissed off.
Indians ALWAYS stare at me when I'm with a non-Indian woman, which is 95% of the time. The woman is usually east Asian, sometimes white and I detect zero animosity from Asian-American men most of the time
In response to an earlier post, my family would have no issue with me marrying a non-Indian.
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Funny! I am Indian and never dated Indian women, but definitely know of the attitude you experienced. It disgusts me, and I made it very clear to my parents that I am American. Take it or leave it. That said, my wife is Colombian, and the family's story is similar to my folks. The parents have been a-ok, albeit some initial hesitation. What you don't know, scares you I suppose...Indian societies are very close minded.
Definitely, they forget if there's a cultural 'barrier' it's between you and a girl from India, not a white American woman.
That's interesting, all of the hot Asian girls I know are all dating white guys
I'm Asian and most of my dates are white or hispanic. I haven't noticed any overt looks from strangers. Mind over matter. If you don't mind, then it doesn't matter.
Also, which I believe is particularly relevant to IR relationships: Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.
I'm British-Indian and I went to a Japanese resturant in LA's little Tokyo with a Japanese-American lady just before Xmas; they were some guys from Japan on the the table next to us and they looked very pissed off.
Indians ALWAYS stare at me when I'm with a non-Indian woman, which is 95% of the time. The woman is usually east Asian, sometimes white and I detect zero animosity from Asian-American men most of the time
In response to an earlier post, my family would have no issue with me marrying a non-Indian.
Almost all of the Indian guys I know have Indian wives with exception of one guy whose wife is white. Maybe they are just staring because it's something they don't see often?
My mom wants me to marry someone who makes me happy, and that's her only requirement. Well, she also wants me to find someone with a graduate degree, which I don't particularly care about. My dad... well, I don't really care what he thinks lol
DH and I have been married for 8 yrs I am african american, he's white. A couple of my relatives had a problem with it in the beginning. But once they seen how much we loved each other and no matter how anyone felt, we were still going to get married, they changed their tunes. Now, everyone is used to it. His family has always been nice to me. I have the best-in-laws
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If any relatives have a problem with it, freak them out with your mutant mongrel offspring, and constantly bring up the fact you are totally destroying the 'purity' of the family line, rubbing it in their faces every chance you get.
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