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If she refuses to take care of your needs and does not want to get married, then it seems to me you are free to get your needs taken care of elsewhere. So porn, another person, or whatever.
Sex is a need! And men are "visual creatures". You need to look at something be it porn or another person.
So it seems unreasonable to me that she would deny taking care of your needs. Then also try to prevent you from finding other ways to take care of your needs.
I explain men's sex drives to women like this: It is like we are hungry. Then eat. Then we are no longer hungry. Same with men and sex. We have an "urge" which NEEDS to be taken care of, we take care of it, then that is that.
She IS taking care of his needs. She is blowing him THREE times a day. Most married men don't get head that often from their wives.
If people think oral sex is sex than why are you all acting like he isn't getting any action?
How is he sexually frustrated if he is getting bjs three times a day? He is getting his release more often than married men.
It sounded like he was okay with just getting bj's and would be willing to wait for an eternity for vagina sex, but the problem is she stopped giving him bj's.
(lol the whole situation is comical to me the more I think about it.)
So she is 23 but will be 24 very soon. She is a virgin. I have dated her for 3 years. I am a 27 year old Male who has had many partners. When I was in college It was very easy for me to be with women. I am an attractive guy. I have no problem in that department. I am very personable.
I have respected her discision to not have sex. I have never pressured her once to have sex with me. I didnt want to be THAT GUY. In the beggining it was ok because she gave me oral sex regualary. every day. sometimes 3 times a day. It was great because I had found that elusive girl that loves to go down on a guy. Being a virgin, she still has given about 15-17 different guys a blowjob. I on the other hand have slept with about 50 or so girls.
Here is my predicament:
She catches me watching porn in my apartment. She says I watch porn too much. I probobly watch porn about once a day or maybe once every other day. Its not kinky porn. Its just straight up sex between a man and a woman. I try to tell her that I am not having sex. I have basically given up sex for the past 3 years. And the blowjobs are less frequent. Maybe once every week or maybe once every 2 weeks. It went a whole month without sexual contact before. She only wants to be sexual when she is drinking. So I have to take her out to a club and spend a bunch of money and then I MIGHT get a blowjob. Maybe...
I would rather sit at home while she goes out and jack off its getting to that point. At least I can imagine sex is happening through the porn.
I get so frustrated that I start flirting with co workers just to get attention and feel arousal. My girlfriend tells me that she is a catch and that any guy would wait for her until she is married. I am trying to explain to her that most guys would say that too her and probably have another girl or girls on the side to keep them sane. She doesn't believe that.
Some may be saying "GET RID OF HER". Well its not that simple. I do care about her and I do love her. She makes me smile and she makes me happy. But we argue a lot and most of it stems from me being so sexually frustrated. I am naturally a high testosterone kind of guy. I love sports and I used to work out a lot until I hurt my back in a serious accident.
Please help and tell me what you think. Am I watching porn too much? I feel that its a relief of tension. I ask her to help me out but she wont. So I go to my computer.
She is stubborn and does not understand I feel.
Please tell me if im wrong.
Thank you.
It's been three years. By now you should know if she is the woman you want to spend your life with. If she is then marry her. If she isn't then do both of you a favor and move on.
You aren't supposed to date forever. And besides, it sounds like she is getting bored with the situation - and so are you.
She IS taking care of his needs. She is blowing him THREE times a day. Most married men don't get head that often from their wives...
I seem to recall reading he went one month without any "help" from her. And she only MAY do him if he takes her out drinking. He can't afford that. And he has not been getting much lately.
So the question is how many times a day does he need it?
And is she taking care of him that many times a day, everyday? If she is not, then he NEEDS to do something else.
And the blowjobs are less frequent. Maybe once every week or maybe once every 2 weeks. It went a whole month without sexual contact before. She only wants to be sexual when she is drinking. So I have to take her out to a club and spend a bunch of money and then I MIGHT get a blowjob. Maybe...
He said during the first two years of the relationship, she lived across the country and he'd fly in once a month. I'm guessing she'd load up on the blow jobs while he was there. Now he says it is only once or twice a week and only when she gets drunk.
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