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Old 01-29-2012, 11:12 AM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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Let me clarify, good looking does not necessarily = shallow ditzy cheerleader/home-coming queen in high school type

There are plain Jane types who are naturally very physically attractive, much moreso than some of those who think they are...
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Old 01-29-2012, 11:38 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Good grief. Why not just meet people, date, have fun, see where things go - and not put so much time into thinking about people's looks. People are more than a number and people are more than some imaginary "league." When you put soooo much time and effort into thinking about all these superficial things - you lose sight of what's really important in a human being.
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Old 01-29-2012, 11:41 AM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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Good grief. Why not just meet people, date, have fun, see where things go - and not put so much time into thinking about people's looks. People are more than a number and people are more than some imaginary "league." When you put soooo much time and effort into thinking about all these superficial things - you lose sight of what's really important in a human being.
Amen
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Old 01-29-2012, 11:46 AM
 
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No, the uggliest woman with tripple humps on her back and a foot growing out of her ear will still want a perfect prince charming and settle for nothing less.
youre exactly right. The reason for that, is that a woman throughout her life dedicates herself completely to become the ideal woman she has envisioned, and thus seeks an ideal man to compliment her. If the man is not ideal, he must at least be able and willing to be flexible enough, for her to believe he can become the ideal male she has envisioned for herself.
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Old 01-29-2012, 11:53 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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No, the uggliest woman with tripple humps on her back and a foot growing out of her ear will still want a perfect prince charming and settle for nothing less.

I've been rejected by women I'd almost think it a charity to offer myself to while drunk. at least I'm happy about those rejections when I sober up :P
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youre exactly right. The reason for that, is that a woman throughout her life dedicates herself completely to become the ideal woman she has envisioned, and thus seeks an ideal man to compliment her. If the man is not ideal, he must at least be able and willing to be flexible enough, for her to believe he can become the ideal male she has envisioned for herself.
You guys are sooo right! That's why there are no women who are married or in relationships. All women are single because they all want perfect men and no perfect men exist.
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Old 01-29-2012, 02:00 PM
 
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Personally, I think girls who think of themselves as attractive - which isn't always the same as actually being so - often try to play 'hard to get' or just keep themselves off-limits. A lot of rather average looking women think of themselves this way. On the other hand, it seems if you hit the right buttons it's not all that impossible to land the 'hot chick', especially if she doesn't have that attitude.

I guess my point is that maybe the whole belief that attractive women are much harder to have a relationship with isn't entirely true (and mean of course there is a basis for it). I'm not just talking exceptions, but maybe a different dynamic is going on.

What do you think?
I understand what you are saying and I do agree. A lot of average to slightly above average women have had their ego pumped up so much by getting hit on and having so many options that they are really no easier to land than a quite attractive woman sometimes.

It all depends on the mentality of the woman really. I have dated women that would be considered way more attractive by most men than some of the women who have rejected me and laughed in my face (yes this has happened).

That's how it for dudes.

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Good grief. Why not just meet people, date, have fun, see where things go - and not put so much time into thinking about people's looks. People are more than a number and people are more than some imaginary "league." When you put soooo much time and effort into thinking about all these superficial things - you lose sight of what's really important in a human being.
You got me.
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Old 01-29-2012, 02:04 PM
 
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Women who don't like you are hard to "get".

Women who like you are much easier to "get"

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A dude who "gets" women who are much more attractive than I consider myself.

Not necessarily. A lot of women do play hard to get, even if they are interested in a guy.
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Old 01-29-2012, 02:07 PM
 
Location: southern california
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girls in my league are playing a different game a more level playing field.
the beautiful people dont have to play my game so the ante for the game goes way up, they dont have to be nice they dont have to play fair. there is a long line outside their door to replace me.
this is a genderless game.
wanting and getting are 2 different things.
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Old 01-29-2012, 02:16 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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Not necessarily. A lot of women do play hard to get, even if they are interested in a guy.
I don't play that game so it doesn't really apply to my comment.

Was just a few weeks ago I went on a few dates with this woman. Then she started acting strangely. "I want you to fight for me" is what I eventually drag out of her. More eventually I drag out of her that the only thing that I am fighting for her against is...her.

I saw the ludicrousness of this. She didn't.

I was no longer concerned about getting her.
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Old 01-29-2012, 02:18 PM
 
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I don't play that game so it doesn't really apply to my comment.

This is what you said:


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Women who don't like you are hard to "get".

Women who like you are much easier to "get"

So yes, it most certainly does apply to your comment.
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