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Men can easily separate sex from love. Men can have sex with anyone and not have any love feelings for that person. It is a need like eating. You eat and you are no longer hungry. And men can get quite emotionally attached to others (male or female) without ever having sex with them. Animals too.
Women on the other hand (in my opinion again) are different. It seems to me sex is intertwined with love. They are not easily separated. Evidence of this is when a woman finds a man "cheating". Her reaction is that the man "loves" the other person he is having sex with. Not so in many cases!
Anyway people are different. I'm sure there are men who are different than what I described above and as well as women. But in general those are my observations.
Oh woman are much more complicated than that, It's the unpredictable nature that makes it that way. it's one of the reasons that even many woman prefer to work with and for men. Men are just more predicatable.
Example:
Woman hold female indisrection as much more forgivable than a mans indiscretion. You see it over and over again here: "You poor baby, you had to seek out another man to find someone that understands you" as opposed to "That Efing Cheating jerk he's going to hell and we should castrate him"
People who do not desire a relationship at all, and are not emotionally attached with any person but still have sexual desires they need to fulfill like an physical urge, as hunger, whether casually or through other means, are at one extreme. And people who are asexual but who get emotionally attached and desire all of the romantic relationship, for which the actual sexual actions "don't do anything for them" are at the other extreme.
Most people however, are not at either extreme and fall in between.
People who not feeling the same combinations of importance of either type of attraction is the result of much tension.
Also, as mentioned earlier, platonic and romantic feelings aren't the same.
One thing that I think might be relevant is if say you remember when you were growing up and had your "first crush" on a girl or boy.
I think that crush/infatuation is more related to the romantic attraction aspect, if you did not have sexual attraction with it (desire to actually do anything sexual).
Men can have sex with anyone and not have any love feelings for that person
Very big generalization. There are millions of men who are not like this. I know quite a few myself. Most men cannot "have sex with anyone." Desperate men, sure. A self-assured, well-grounded man? Usually not.
Not this man... I need an emotional connection with a woman
if we are going to have sex otherwise it won't happen.
I hear you!
I prefer an emotional connection because it is way so better I don't know why anyone would want a plug in
receptacle. This is probably the reason I have not had a one nighter since I was a teen. And its not because I have anything against one night stands because I would easily consider one if the right conditions arose.
The real problem is when you have a relationship, and add sex to the mix...sex intensifies everything, especially when there is a connection. But it also creates confusion...
And by the way, those older couples...are still having sex! Maybe not the "Hot Monkey" variety...but they are not dead yet!
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The real problem is when you have a relationship, and add sex to the mix...sex intensifies everything, especially when there is a connection. But it also creates confusion...
And by the way, those older couples...are still having sex! Maybe not the "Hot Monkey" variety...but they are not dead yet!
Some are, but I was actually thinking like grey haired old nan and pop in the nursing home lol.
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