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Dont go. Tell your fiance that he shouldnt go either. Simple.
Honestly, I predict your marriage will fail due to communication issues. If you are unable to talk to him about this, how many other things will you find great difficulty in communication with him on once you guys get married.
She should certainly feel comfortable telling him she is not interested in going, but she has no business telling him not to go.
Partners who try to dictate what each other can and can't do aren't going to find themselves in the healthiest relationship.
He has the right to want to be with his family, even if his ex will be there.
Honesty is the best policy, tell your fiance that you are not comfortable being in the company of his ex-wife and her family and you prefer to stay home and you hope he enjoys the party and to drive safely.
The right answer. Don't be insecure and childish, it will come back to haunt you if you do anything but the above suggestion.
She should certainly feel comfortable telling him she is not interested in going, but she has no business telling him not to go.
Partners who try to dictate what each other can and can't do aren't going to find themselves in the healthiest relationship.
He has the right to want to be with his family, even if his ex will be there.
You hit it on the nail with the bolded portion. This reminds me of a situation I had when my husbands son got married for the first time.
He came over to deliver the invitation and included in the invite was a note from the son requesting that I not attend because it would make the Ex uncomfortable. To be honest, I was ok with this, I really wasn't excited to go anyway. My husband on the other hand said he would not go because I was not invited. I told him he had to go, he was the Dad. We actually argued about this because he as adamant about not going and I was adamant about him going. In the end he went and I'm glad he did and so is he.
Just because you are now with this person does not make him "yours". He has a right to decide on his own if he wants to go or not.
When you RSVP, you say "I'm sorry, I can't make it." You don't need to give anyone a complicated explanation.
Exactly. That's all that needs to be said. I would probably send a gift. Maybe a savings bond the EX can't cash in. That takes care of you. If your BF really wants to go there may be another issue.
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