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I can say as a guy living in a north florida ( Panama City) town that is absolutely saturated with single moms that it is bordering on impossible to find a girl over the age of 23-24 who does not have kids.I've lived here for 25 years and this is no exaguration, dating a single mom is almost a requirement if you want to find someone in this neck of the woods and yet this is something that I have purposed not to do. I have gone out with and also have friends who are single moms and it is difficult at best to get to know someone and find time to see someone when kids are involved. Throw in things like sick kids, soccer/baseball games, homework, baby sitters who bail on you at the last minute and dating or at lease finding a level of consistency in dating is unrealistic.Most guys like myself who don't have kids and are free to do things without much prior planning don't want to deal with having to plan things around someone's kids. I know that sounds inconsiderate but that's just the reality of it. I've been looking for a new city to relocate to for the last year or so and one of the main reasons is the difficulty in finding a girl near my age (I'm in my 30's) who doesn't have kids. Throw in things like ex husbands/fathers, girls that want you to be a part of their lives but don't want you to say anything to their kids when they misbehave and it becomes more trouble than a lot of guys want to deal with. Just my point of view, there are a lot of guys that don't mind if a girl has kids and to be fair it's the same issue from a girls perspective because that means there are an equal number of single dad's out here as well but It's not something I would even consider doing. It's just personal preference.
Im a single mom and got joint custody with my ex. Of course my kids comes first, but I also have some free time to date. I like to independent and not desperate to have a man in my life. I dated a single father too and I never had a problem with him having kids. Every single moms schedule is different so nobody cant say all single mothers are the same.
I've dated a few single mom's in the past....and it tends to be tough. You have to accept both and if the relationship does not work out, the child gets hurt as well.
I don't really have a problem dating a single mother, and have done so in the past, but it can be difficult.
I know that the kids come first, but should a woman be dating if she has no time?
For example, I dated a woman for about a month, and saw her once a week. Then for an entire month after that, she was unavailable due to various obligations, and we only lived 10 minutes away from each other. I would have continued to see her, but it was like a long distance relationship, which I'm not interested in.
So, for you single moms:
How do you date if you have no time?
What did you do to make time to see the man you were dating?
Or, did you just not date?
A single mother might have time to date if the father has visitation. She may have every other weekend off parenting and even one day in the middle of the week. When the kids have the other parent it makes a lot of difference.
However if the single mother must hold down a full time job and has a small child or children, those children already have limited time to spend with her and their needs should come first. When children become teenagers, they still need a parent and even more if they have only one parent.
Children should be viewed as more than a casual committment, they are a full time committment.
I can say as a guy living in a north florida ( Panama City) town that is absolutely saturated with single moms that it is bordering on impossible to find a girl over the age of 23-24 who does not have kids.I've lived here for 25 years and this is no exaguration, dating a single mom is almost a requirement if you want to find someone in this neck of the woods
Hi neighbor! I haven't been in this area as long as you, but there is a lot of truth to what you said, as far as I can see. I'm way beyond dating in that age range though (so my direct experience is almost nil), but this seems true for the people I work with or with friends' daughters. I do know a few attractive 30-ish women without kids, but they moved here from other places.
I've dated a few single mom's in the past....and it tends to be tough. You have to accept both and if the relationship does not work out, the child gets hurt as well.
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Originally Posted by Raena77
Yep that's why it is hard to date.
You're entitled to have a life outside the home.
We are talking dating here. The child doesn't have to be involved, especially to the point where there is any "hurt."
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