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That's just dumb. If I wanted to get married and have kids, why would I bother seriously dating a woman who didn't want the same things? After the third or fourth date, if you don't know that sort of stuff, you're wasting your time.
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Originally Posted by findly185
This has been my direction so far. I don't want to waste a guys time who wants kids or marriage and I certainly don't want to get involved with someone who will eventually resent or try to change my mind set.
Are you people from some kind of cult community where every guy you date has to be a marriage prospect and not only that but according to your preset plans?
No wonder some women scare guys off.
What ever happened to dating, companionship and fun. You deserve not to find anyone.
I had to think about this question last time I said I would want to know right away. I wouldn't be pushed into changing certain things in my life such as my belifes. That's one thing that will never change. However I can see changing your mind about children once you got to know this person. Or perhaps moving to another state simple things like that. Someone who you could possibly seeing yourself spending your life could change your mind about said things. Let's be honest relationships/love is about give/take.
Depends on the purpose of the dating I would think.
If your dating just to go out and have some fun, then long term goals may not be as important.
However, if your dating with the hopes of finding an LTR with a future, then knowing your date's life plans will be an important topic to cover, fairly early in the dating relationship.
What ever happened to dating, companionship and fun. You deserve not to find anyone.
We're not talking about two high school kids dating, are we? The question is specific to adults who want a serious relationship. If you don't want to be serious, the other person deserves to know.
Also, dating for "fun" basically means you just want to hook up. Nothing wrong with that, but some of us are past that stage in our lives.
Are you people from some kind of cult community where every guy you date has to be a marriage prospect and not only that but according to your preset plans?
No wonder some women scare guys off.
What ever happened to dating, companionship and fun. You deserve not to find anyone.
We're not talking about two high school kids dating, are we? The question is specific to adults who want a serious relationship. If you don't want to be serious, the other person deserves to know.
Also, dating for "fun" basically means you just want to hook up. Nothing wrong with that, but some of us are past that stage in our lives.
That's just dumb. If I wanted to get married and have kids, why would I bother seriously dating a woman who didn't want the same things? After the third or fourth date, if you don't know that sort of stuff, you're wasting your time.
Agreed. The older we get, the less time we really have to waste on not getting these questions answered. I have always said put it all out there. If your fundamentals are opposite, you will simply be wasting time.
Next!
Are you people from some kind of cult community where every guy you date has to be a marriage prospect and not only that but according to your preset plans?
No wonder some women scare guys off.
What ever happened to dating, companionship and fun. You deserve not to find anyone.
Most people don't date for the hell of it or just to pass the time...Companionship and fun are not the necessary ingredients for a lifetime partner. There are still several people out there who want something more meaningful than a simple tryst or a run around the lake.
So having boundaries and goals now makes someone undeserving??
Agreed. The older we get, the less time we really have to waste on not getting these questions answered. I have always said put it all out there. If your fundamentals are opposite, you will simply be wasting time.
Next!
Hah, I bet you have terrible luck living in Austin. The proportion of serious-minded people is very small.
Hah, I bet you have terrible luck living in Austin. The proportion of serious-minded people is very small.
Hon, you are spot on there! It is fairly heartbreaking, and it tends to be just stay the same here. Lakeway is nice!
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