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We two got introduced by common friend in a meet. by then i started talking to her on text. with time text frequency increased a lot ,it was like daily we used to talk. but then my important placement exam came up , so i told her that i need to concentrate on my exam.
so i almost left talking for 1 month because talking to her was diverting my mind a lot. then i gave my exam and cleared it, then i tried to talk to her again but she showed no interest, when i used to text her then only she used to reply ,she stopped texting on her own. This continued for 3-4 months, i gave placement interview n got selected in a well known big firm. then i tried to make an effort again to talk to her but same situation persist ,she was doing nothing on her own.
she didnt know that im selected in ABC company, thru common friend she got to know that im selected in this, then she messaged and congratulated. then we started talking again with same situation as before, one day she started telling "when we met 7months before with common friends alongwith ,that meet was great and all, though we didnt meet much."
i said we can meet , she said okay lets meet. i was quite surprised by this but it was pleasant surprise.
we met and it was quite nice meeting her!
but now also same situation persist, when i talk to her she talk back well but there is no effort from her side at all.
Actuallyshe's the girl i was looking for , she matches me on my hobbies ,interest and she's cool and so calm.
I've feeling for her ,i want to straightway to her but i know it wont be of any use she will probably say no!
in few days i will be going away for my new job ,distance will be there then.
i dont know what to do, suggest guys plz..
What is happening is you ignored her completely for a month and she is not happy about that. It is one thing to cut down talking to someone to one or twice a week, but to drop all contact for a month in a new relationship isn't good. She is upset and doesn't really trust you anymore. She is probably afraid to get too close and have the same thing happen again.
@brokencrayola:
ya i understand that.. but i informed her that i want to prepare well for that exam and she know its kinda tough exam.
i cut down giving the proper reason. isnt that enough?
Focus your attention on the move and your new job and forget about this girl. You ignored her before, she became interested in other things and moved on and she probably does not want to take the chance of you ignoring her again.
Leave this one alone and find someone when you have time to build a real relationship after you have settled in your new home and job.
1) You never tried to move beyond the [lame] texting stage to ask her out for an actual date. Did you expect her to just text you forever?? You "missed your window," as the saying goes.
2) You then cut off all contact for a month. Even though it was to study for an important exam, which I commend you for, you had time to text her a few times to show you care.
3) You are getting ready to leave town. Why saddle her with a long-distance boyfriend when she is already distancing herself from you emotionally?? Just accept that now is NOT the time for you two to get together and move on.
Congratulations on your job. That is an accomplishment.
Next time you find a girl like that, don't act like a kid and just text for hours and hours for weeks at a time. Invite her out!!!
@brokencrayola:
ya i understand that.. but i informed her that i want to prepare well for that exam and she know its kinda tough exam.
i cut down giving the proper reason. isnt that enough?
no, it wasn't, you should have met her in person, explained the situation to her, and allowed her to make a decission...(wait or move on) if that was your plan.
When your texting someone, your void of being able to see expression on the other person's face, and is a lame way to get to know someone. Honestly!!!
Communication is the key to any good relationship even friends...
and if you don't already know that, then you had better do some serious research, remember, it's not all about you...a relationship requires two people to make honest decissions together...
if I were you, I'd move on, and consentrate on the move and new job, and in the meantime, seriously do some reading/research on how to be communicative and what a good friendship/relationship equates to.
Last edited by cremebrulee; 06-04-2013 at 06:32 AM..
Texting is such a dumb way to get to know Someone!
What is wrong with this new generation??!!
Even talking on the phone doesn't show how you will actually connect. Face to face interaction is the only way and for the OP to not take that step is where he messed up.
Texting is such a dumb way to get to know Someone!
What is wrong with this new generation??!!
Even talking on the phone doesn't show how you will actually connect. Face to face interaction is the only way and for the OP to not take that step is where he messed up.
When you wanted to, you cut her out of your life. And now you expect to move back in? What do you think she is? Do you expect her to be there waiting for you every time something important comes up in your life ???
That sounds so selfish!!!! OMG! Honestly if I am her, I would continue to be your friend (maybe) and would not have any kind of romantic relationship with you.
Next time, even if you are busy, it doesn't kill you to check up on her/see her 1-2 hour per week.
When you wanted to, you cut her out of your life. And now you expect to move back in? What do you think she is? Do you expect her to be there waiting for you every time something important comes up in your life ???
That sounds so selfish!!!! OMG! Honestly if I am her, I would continue to be your friend (maybe) and would not have any kind of romantic relationship with you.
Next time, even if you are busy, it doesn't kill you to check up on her/see her 1-2 hour per week.
I agree, sounds very self centured, unable to view life & the thoughts and feelings of others from any other point of view...
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