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Old 02-17-2012, 11:49 AM
 
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My wife and I are going to try a trial separation. Everything seems really cool. No big disagreements.

While we were talking. She mentioned how awkward it would be if we got divorced, and later got remarried but had the same last name. I was like why would we have the same last name? She stated that she is keeping my last name regardless of what we decide to do.

I found that a little weird. Why would you want to keep my last name. She stated that she likes it, and it is officially her name now. I didn't want to make a big deal out of it. Since we seem to be communicating so well now.

But is that weird?
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Old 02-17-2012, 11:51 AM
 
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my mom has her last name of her first marriage after she divorced my dad(her second husband)... which sometimes makes me wonder if they even got married at all..
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Old 02-17-2012, 11:57 AM
 
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No. Most divorced women I know kept their ex-husband's last name, except my mother, she never changed her last name.
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Old 02-17-2012, 12:07 PM
 
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No, it's not weird. I initially kept my ex's last name because it was much easier for people to pronounce. People tend to mangle mine. But after about a year or so, I changed my name back. If I ever remarry, I'll most likely keep my "maiden" name, for a whole host of reasons, not the least of which are professional.
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Old 02-17-2012, 12:53 PM
 
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Nope, not weird. When I got divorced I kept my ex's last name simply because it sounded much nicer than my maiden name. Yes, even if he was in the past his name had grown to be part of my current identity.

I later remarried and changed my last name to my new husbands because I wanted to. If I had not remarried I would have kept my ex's name.

I don't know if it bothered my ex at the time of the divorce, but then again I did'nt care if it did ; )
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Old 02-17-2012, 12:56 PM
 
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have to create too much of a paper trail to keep switching around your last name. you gave it to her, too bad now.
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Old 02-17-2012, 01:41 PM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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I'm in the process of a divorce now and I have every intention of keeping my current married last name. If I ever remarry I would likely take my new husband's last name but unless or until that happens, I don't want the hassle of changing so many documents.
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Old 02-17-2012, 02:05 PM
 
Location: Baltimore, MD
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Its a pain in the ass to legally change your name (and costly too when I had to get a new passport!).
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Old 02-17-2012, 02:07 PM
 
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My mother kept her married last name. Plus, it's less confusing when you have children with the same last name. It's just odd when people call her Mrs.
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Old 02-17-2012, 02:10 PM
 
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my mom has her last name of her first marriage after she divorced my dad(her second husband)... which sometimes makes me wonder if they even got married at all..
So do I.
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