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My boyfriend and i have been going out for a year now. Although alot of drama has occured recently, due to this guy that we met during the summer. This guy, was older, he started off as a friend to both of us, until he started to have feelings for me, my boyfriend then fell out with him and things were quite bad i guess as the guy went to my boyfriends house and made things worse, the police were involved.
So silly me, one night, when i was out with a mate, drunk of course, turns up at this guys house. I never cheated on my boyfriend but this guy tried to kiss me, i never kissed him back. I stopped him and me and my mate left.
I told my boyfriend about it a few days later, because i believed honesty was the key to a good relationship. He was mad for a day or so but then forgave me. However, once that had sort of blown over, my boyfriend and i sort of didn't communicate as much. I'd always been trying with him, texting, asking what he was up to, but he'd never ask simple things like how my day was etc he wasn't paying me much attention.
Then, the other guy started texting me, the stupid girl that i was, replied to his messages. I knew in the back of my mind i shouldnt of but i just liked the attention.
Then one night when i was with my boyfriend, and very drunk, the truth came out about the texts. My boyfriend went mad and said he couldn't trust me. He hasn't been talking to me properly for over a week now and says he can't forgive me because he feels i betrayed him by talking to the guy he hated most. I've apologised to him many times and explained why i replied to the texts, but he says that i ****ed him over and doesn't want to be in a relationship with me anymore.
Obviously, this really hurt me. But the advice i need now is what to do? A few people are telling me not to contact him and to give him time, is this really what i should do? Even though it was me who screwed up?
I miss him so much and im finding it hard to get my life on track. I never thought we would break up and its all a big shock to me aswell.
Any advice would be really appreciated! Thanks.
I think that you both need to be single for a while and grow up. You need to learn how to have proper boundaries around the opposite sex while in a serious relationship. What made you think that your boyfriend would enjoy you being close friends with a random guy? How would that dynamic be healthy for a marriage? I think your blessed that the relationship is over right now. You need to decide what you want.
Stop getting drunk for one and then move on. You know why you contacted the other guy. It was all about playing games.. Your Ex can't trust you and that's real hard to get back.. I guess is you will go to the other guy and he will be a complete fool and you will wish you never messed up with the Ex.. There's nothing new under the sun..
I'm thinking you blew it with the boyfriend...you can't undo what's been done....you knew it would hurt him, but you did it anyways.....the balls in his court now...and it's really up to him to come back to you...if that's what he decides he wants.
Next boyfriend, don't play stupid childish games. What are you, 16 y/o? And quit drinking so much, you do really stupid things when drunk. But the texting was really stupid and you seem to have been sober then.
Then you know what the problem is. Why do you even have to ask?
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