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I've only been seeing this girl for a month. I do like her and I'm considering a relationship with her, I'd like to give it another month to be sure. I've never been with anyone seriously and I'm not really sure if I'm moving too fast. So how long do u think long en enough? I'm in my mid 20s and she's almost 30.
I don't know if there is a standard amount of time you should date before becoming a couple...just whatever feels right to you. I'm in my mid-twenties too and I've only had a couple of relationships - With the first, we dated for about 5 months before becoming exclusive and in the second, we dated for 2 months before.
Give things another month. Maybe let her give some indication of what she wants - she may even tell you. And you can ask, but give it more time first. Even if you do agree to become exclusive, that does not mean things will last. Relationships are fragile at first, and there are so many reasons - valid or not - that one person may decide that it isn't right for them. A truly serious relationship normally takes a year or two before permanence can be contemplated with any strong basis for expecting success, IMO.
I know you came here looking for help, but this question is like so many others posted here, that can can only be answered with the phrase: "It depends...."
There are no simple answers to these kind of complex relationship questions.
It depends on you, her, how you feel about her, how she feels about you, what you are looking for, what she is looking for, .... I could go on and on.
Except that in this case, "you should talk with her" is a pretty good start (and effective) answer/suggestion.
Once, on a fourth date with a woman, I said "So I guess you're my girlfriend now." She replied, "Oh really??" She was certainly taken aback by my presumption, my being so forward. Now she's my wife.
I'm not saying you should follow in my footsteps, but the idea of dating this woman I really liked, and then dating others and having her date others was something that made my stomach turn. It's OK for "reality" TV, but icky in real life to me.
I don't think there's anything wrong with pursuing a relationship with someone after just a month. Just because you're being exclusive doesn't mean that you need to spend every moment with someone, it just means that you like this person enough to only want to see them. I think that's nice.
I've only been seeing this girl for a month. I do like her and I'm considering a relationship with her, I'd like to give it another month to be sure. I've never been with anyone seriously and I'm not really sure if I'm moving too fast. So how long do u think long en enough? I'm in my mid 20s and she's almost 30.
I don't really have a time limit. Usually not until after the 3rd or 4th date would it begin to cross my mind though.
There is no set timeframe. Depends on the pace of the relationship, level of interest of the individuals, and their expectations for how they should proceed.
My soon to be wife and I had a relationship going fairly early in dating. Maybe third date. However, we had known each other a year and a half by then too, and basically had started dating with the expectationof a relationship.
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