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You like a certain girl. Every indication is that she likes you too and would be thrilled if you asked her out. The two of you get along GREAT! Every time you're together you laugh and tease and talk and flirt with ease. You feel completely comfortable talking to her about anything at all, in fact you never feel the slightest bit nervousness around her...with one exception.
Whenever you have the opportunity to tell her you have more than simple friendship in mind, you open your mouth but nothing comes out!
It's all well and good to say: "just do it". You tell yourself the as much and even convince yourself that you will tell her the next time you see her. But when the time comes you keep on letting the moment slip by.
Why do you have to say it at all. Just invite her out someplace, spend some time together and if there's mutual sparks then proceed accordingly. Sometimes talking about these things just throws cold water on the deal.
Take one from Raj on Big Bang Theory. Down a shot of alcohol, wait for it to kick in, and let the words flow.
Seriously though, I don't think asking someone out is easy for anyone. You just have to suck it up. I wouldn't tell her you have all these feelings for her (that's probably pretty obvious), I would just say, "Hey, I was wondering if you would want to go to dinner with me on Saturday night? I could pick you up around 7?" Makes it clear it's a date, but isn't over the top at all.
One thought I have, and I don't know if it's a good one or not, would be to write your thoughts down on paper -- a letter to her. Fold it and stick it into your shirt pocket. When the time comes that you *want* to tell her but can't get the words out, just tell her there's something you've been wanting to say but when you try the words fail you. Then hand her the letter.
One thought I have, and I don't know if it's a good one or not, would be to write your thoughts down on paper -- a letter to her. Fold it and stick it into your shirt pocket. When the time comes that you *want* to tell her but can't get the words out, just tell her there's something you've been wanting to say but when you try the words fail you. Then hand her the letter.
Would that work, ladies?
Personally, no. That's a cop out, imo. If you're so scared of me you can't talk to me...well...not a good thing.
Besides, what is there to write down? Just ask her out! No need to confess your deepest emotions before you've even had a date.
Why do you have to say it at all. Just invite her out someplace, spend some time together and if there's mutual sparks then proceed accordingly. Sometimes talking about these things just throws cold water on the deal.
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I would just say, "Hey, I was wondering if you would want to go to dinner with me on Saturday night? I could pick you up around 7?" Makes it clear it's a date, but isn't over the top at all.
Good suggestions but I don't know when or if I'll get the nerve up to ask her out either. All the time we've spent together up to this point as been in a group of friends or accidental meetings. Nothing planned.
The other day we were walking along together alone talking and I thought to myself: "Hey, here's a good opportunity to say something..." Nope. "Or ask her out..." Nope.
It's cute - to an extent. Then it just gets irritating. I'm a fan of being as blunt as possible because I don't like to have my feelings on a coaster of "what if" and "maybe."
If you don't say it now, you might as well accept that you are entering friend territory pretty soon and you may never be able to leave.
grow some balls and stop making such a big deal about it. You only live once, when you 70 years old your gonna feel stupid that you couldnt even ask a girl on a date. Its just a date, not some sort of decision with epic consequences. Stop working yourself up. DONT OVER THINK relax.
Your like ted mosby from how i met your mother.
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