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It is really that simple. Rejection is a part of life and there are plenty of fish in the sea. So why is it so hard for women who get asked out whether while they are at work, a grocery store, or some random place to simply tell a guy who asks them out that they are not interested. Women often lie to men at clubs if they aren't interested, like oh I have a boyfriend/married, and other excuses. Why can't they do the same thing to men they are not interested while they are in public.
I know many women will give excuses that the guy will ask "why" and other questions and I'll say that is complete and utter nonsense. They start asking "why" usually when you give them your phone number for no reason utter than to play mind games with them and finally tell them that they are no longer interested. I tell my guy friends that many women use guys as backup and you don't want to do that so when you meet her again just tell her if she is interested or not. So women, next time a man asks you out and you just don't see the physical attraction, vibe, or confidence from the guy, simply say "No/I'm sorry not interested. His ego and confidence might hurt for a day, but he'll be alright. Better this than probably unleashing prolonged sadness from continued attempted failures without you giving him any indication that you are not interested.
It's just that most woman today were raised to be polite and not hurt peoples feelings.
Having to reject a guy is hard for those who don't want to purposely hurt anyone. It's even very uncomfortable sometimes.
I do agree with you that it would be better if more people in general could just be honest upfront, though again, that does take a lot of people out of their comfort zones.
What do you want them to do, tell you that your face creeps them out?
Or are we talking about surveys here?
Ma'am, you have previously shown no sexual interest in me. In order for me to become more sexually desirable in the future, can you please take up to 5 minutes to fill out the following survey. All finished surveys are eligible for the grand prize, being stalked by me.
Women have a hard time saying they're not interested probably for the same reason guy's do. The famous "I'll call you" line that guys give, right? It's the same thing.
I have no problem saying no, but I understand why some women do. In the last ten years, I've been called a B or other derogatory names by guys when I've - politely - declined advances. Some guys can have strange reactions and it's not always pleasant.
I have no problem saying no, but I understand why some women do. In the last ten years, I've been called a B or other derogatory names by guys when I've - politely - declined advances. Some guys can have strange reactions and it's not always pleasant.
Exactly. I have been called the same. Accused of "being afraid of men" "being a lesbian" and all kinds of curse words because I didn't respond positively when some random person hollered at me on the street. Frankly it feels dangerous sometimes. Some people are overly aggressive and overly angry about being rejected.
I smile and ignore, or say something like "sorry I'm late for a meeting/meeting a friend/have a reservation."
Women generally don't want to make the guy feel bad.
It's less hurtful to say, "I'm busy" and hope that he gets it. The rejection is less personal that way--unlike, "I'm not interested" which sounds like you think there's something unappealing about the guy. It's just awkward.
Women generally don't want to make the guy feel bad.
It's less hurtful to say, "I'm busy" and hope that he gets it. The rejection is less personal that way--unlike, "I'm not interested" which sounds like you think there's something unappealing about the guy. It's just awkward.
Same thing is getting rejected for a job offer. Just tell the truth.
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