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Old 03-07-2012, 09:04 AM
 
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I have just received a very interesting suggestion for our first date; that if babysitting is an issue, I can just go ahead and bring my son with me to the agreed restaurant, and that it's absolutely fine with him, lol!!

Never heard such a thing before, and I thought it was hilarious. He's a nice gentleman though, and I know he means well. I think it's sweet of him to say that, but, nah, no kiddos go to my dates.

Just thought I should share to see if anyone has ever been asked this before.
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Old 03-07-2012, 09:18 AM
 
Location: Hartford CT
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I don't have any kids, but I have had women who had babysitting plans fall through ask me if they could bring their kid to dinner with us. Of course I declined, but I always reshceduled.
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Old 03-07-2012, 09:20 AM
 
Location: Simmering in DFW
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I think its a sweet gesture, to make this offer. But I think its really an awful idea to make the poor child be part of a date. Also, I don't think kids should meet love interests of their parents until the relationship is serious enough that marriage looks like the next step. Its just too confusing for children. A man who knows kids will certainly understand that!
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Old 03-07-2012, 09:31 AM
 
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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I have just received a very interesting suggestion for our first date; that if babysitting is an issue, I can just go ahead and bring my son with me to the agreed restaurant, and that it's absolutely fine with him, lol!!

Never heard such a thing before, and I thought it was hilarious. He's a nice gentleman though, and I know he means well. I think it's sweet of him to say that, but, nah, no kiddos go to my dates.

Just thought I should share to see if anyone has ever been asked this before.
Something ain't right about that. Totally an internal feeling but no guy I've heard of wants a kid along on a first date. Definitely proceed with caution.
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Old 03-07-2012, 09:35 AM
 
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I think its a sweet gesture, to make this offer. But I think its really an awful idea to make the poor child be part of a date. Also, I don't think kids should meet love interests of their parents until the relationship is serious enough that marriage looks like the next step. Its just too confusing for children. A man who knows kids will certainly understand that!
We, parents, know that already which is why I said it will never happen. What he was trying to do is accomodate my situation so I don't have the pressure to get a sitter and didn't focus too much on the bolded part above. He has grown up children of his own, so he does know them well. I just thought it was a sweet but strange suggestion and wanted to see if anyone else has been asked the same before.

But anyway, my mom is always glad to help so problem solved!
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Old 03-07-2012, 09:40 AM
 
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Something ain't right about that. Totally an internal feeling but no guy I've heard of wants a kid along on a first date. Definitely proceed with caution.
Let's start by saying, I was introduced to the man at a cocktail party last Wednesday by his business partner whom I know very well, so he's not a total stranger. Security is not an issue here.
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Old 03-07-2012, 10:17 AM
 
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He's just trying to make a good impression. There's no way he really wants your child to be there for a first date. He's just trying to come across as a "good guy"
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Old 03-07-2012, 10:23 AM
 
Location: Saint Louis, MO
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I think its a sweet gesture, to make this offer. But I think its really an awful idea to make the poor child be part of a date. Also, I don't think kids should meet love interests of their parents until the relationship is serious enough that marriage looks like the next step. Its just too confusing for children. A man who knows kids will certainly understand that!
I agree to a point but waiting "until marriage is the next step" is a little unrealistic. It's okay, in my opinion, to bring dates around as long as they are presented as friends. After my divorce I dated a few girls, but they knew that no affection was to be shown around the kids. No spending the night while my kids were with me either.
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Old 03-07-2012, 10:30 AM
 
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I have just received a very interesting suggestion for our first date; that if babysitting is an issue, I can just go ahead and bring my son with me to the agreed restaurant, and that it's absolutely fine with him, lol!!

Never heard such a thing before, and I thought it was hilarious. He's a nice gentleman though, and I know he means well. I think it's sweet of him to say that, but, nah, no kiddos go to my dates.

Just thought I should share to see if anyone has ever been asked this before.
RUN from this one my friend.
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Old 03-07-2012, 10:56 AM
 
Location: USA
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Ive had a lunch date where she brought her son with. I knew her and her son well and it wasn't a first date though. There are so many different circumstances where it would be ok or not.
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