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Old 04-07-2012, 06:23 PM
 
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When is a woman considered wife material?

When I can stand her.
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Old 04-07-2012, 06:34 PM
 
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I've heard that phrase on different sites. What exactly is it that they're looking for. Do I possess some qualities or not?

Things I do/don't do and qualities I might have or don't have
1) I don't really have too many characteristics of a house-wife (I'm useless when it comes to recipes or decorating/organizing the house but might hire a maid in the future, plus I can't use detergent nor do any heavy cleaning due to my allergies)
2) Have no interest in ever having kids and will be turning 25 next month.. it's ok for me as I'm slowly waiting for all the eggs to die
3) I'm focusing on finishing Turism & Travel management major (I'm paying for my courses)
4) I have plans on traveling to historical places, not staying home all day
5) But even though I'm different and like stated will never bear a child, I want to get married one day (I just want a husband, not add someone else in the picture)
6) I hardly ever dye my nails nor put make-up on (sometimes I wear the same clothes)
7) I'm sort of a bookish person and sometimes lack a sense of humor
8) Regarding my past: only an ex and that's about it but I think it's because I need to go out often

Or will many men still look for the woman with some household characteristics as well as one with nurturing urges towards kids?

Thing is I'm very different and it's probably gonna take me a while to find him. It's like they still want a woman that's kinda traditional in some roles. I don't fit them. I think that's why my ex bf never saw me as potential wife and so strung me along.

People in my family are getting married one by one and sometimes it makes me kinda upset that I still haven't found him.... the one that will accept me like this.
I think you WILL find someone who wants to spend the rest of his life with you. It will be difficult, as most men couples want to start a family.

The path you are on...travelling and visiting many places is something I only wished to have done at your age. I'm in my late 30's and have been trying to find someone like you, to spend the "second half" of my life engulfed in travel and exploration. Finding a woman that fits that description is proving difficult though.
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Old 04-07-2012, 06:37 PM
 
Location: TX
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A woman is "wife material" when she's compatible with the man she's dating.

Same for men. A man is "husband material" when he's willing to obey and grant his woman's every wish-
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Old 04-07-2012, 06:43 PM
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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Well, none of my DILs can or want to cook, so I guess men don't care about that.
Two of three are childless, so I guess that doesn't matter either.
You are smart to just go about your life with gusto, and along the way you may find a man who shares your interests. Hopefully, children will not be important to him, and if they are, you will need to either change your mind or move on to the next one.
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Old 04-07-2012, 06:44 PM
 
Location: Lower east side of Toronto
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"Flesh of my flesh - bone of my bone...forsaking all others"...that is the ancient formula for being wife or husband material....when a person is capable of being totally dedicated to the other...if the person does not follow this rule..that when you marry...you become one person...and you can never betray the other...because that other half is YOU...The spouse comes first...not career..not children...not money...not the government - not your mother or father......THEN and only then will you have your own little empire....real power through marriage...anything less is NOT marriage but an arrangement..that will run it's course and fail.
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Old 04-08-2012, 06:00 AM
 
Location: Lower east side of Toronto
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When you love her.
The rest will take care of it self.
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Old 04-08-2012, 06:21 AM
 
Location: Homeless
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We want someone we can trust & that has our backs. We don't want some tramp when we're looking for someone to settle down with. Someone to grow old with share the ups & downs that come along in life. That won't run out on us when things get tough. Don't listen to someone tell you that men want some sleazy trollop we want love just as much as the next person.
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Old 04-08-2012, 06:37 AM
 
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This board is the only place I have ever frequented that has a decent sized population that buys into the old fashioned stuff about male and female roles as a necessity. One may choose that lifestyle, and more power to 'em. But not all people are looking for that, and it does not sound like a good match for you. In my opinion, spouse material is whatever I want to spend every day of the rest of my life with. This, for us, has included similar outlooks on life, similar values, similar sense of humor...
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Old 04-08-2012, 06:45 AM
 
Location: southern california
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this is much like the deal breaker threads.
deal breaker is cheating--sexual or financial.
financial infidelity is a big one.
calling yourself a team and not being one is fatal.
matthew 10:36
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Old 04-08-2012, 06:54 AM
 
Location: Lower east side of Toronto
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Any woman that settles for a man that does not want kids - will find in time that the man will start calling her mum. Any man that will settle for a woman that does not want kids will find himself her personal servant and butler---that works for free.
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