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Old 03-12-2012, 01:11 PM
 
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hahaha.........I never dreamed of my wedding or getting married but I did it anyway...........THREE TIMES...
So if I stop dreaming about it and act like I don't care, it'll show naturally when I least expected it?
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Old 03-12-2012, 01:20 PM
 
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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I thought one became 'wife material' when a man finds that he cannot live without you .... I didn't know there was a checklist.
That is the only barometer I will go on.
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Old 03-12-2012, 06:43 PM
 
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Wife material- Loves REM, hangs out in dive bars, does not watch football, watches baseball, is able to have intellectual discussions on Ole Anderson's booking style for Georgia Championship Wrestling in the early 80's.
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Old 03-12-2012, 06:52 PM
 
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All right, I'm entitled to my opinion, so let the flame war begin!

- she's attractive in a feminine way (Jamie Lee Curtis cuts it in the body department, but not in the face department)
- she's not a feminist and she's not "earthy," per my definition
- she's educated, and very interested in knowing more about the world (likes to travel)
- she's got similar religious and political viewpoints (in the "ball park")
- she's childless, and prefers dogs/cats to kids
- she's got a great sense of humor, even a slightly off-color one, or if not, laughs at a dirty joke
- she's willing to go to work
Well, this is pretty tame. What's to flame for?
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Old 03-12-2012, 07:07 PM
 
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I've heard that phrase on different sites. What exactly is it that they're looking for. Do I possess some qualities or not?

Things I do/don't do and qualities I might have or don't have
1) I don't really have too many characteristics of a house-wife (I'm useless when it comes to recipes or decorating/organizing the house but might hire a maid in the future, plus I can't use detergent nor do any heavy cleaning due to my allergies)
2) Have no interest in ever having kids and will be turning 25 next month.. it's ok for me as I'm slowly waiting for all the eggs to die
3) I'm focusing on finishing Turism & Travel management major (I'm paying for my courses)
4) I have plans on traveling to historical places, not staying home all day
5) But even though I'm different and like stated will never bear a child, I want to get married one day (I just want a husband, not add someone else in the picture)
6) I hardly ever dye my nails nor put make-up on (sometimes I wear the same clothes)
7) I'm sort of a bookish person and sometimes lack a sense of humor
8) Regarding my past: only an ex and that's about it but I think it's because I need to go out often

Or will many men still look for the woman with some household characteristics as well as one with nurturing urges towards kids?

Thing is I'm very different and it's probably gonna take me a while to find him. It's like they still want a woman that's kinda traditional in some roles. I don't fit them. I think that's why my ex bf never saw me as potential wife and so strung me along.

People in my family are getting married one by one and sometimes it makes me kinda upset that I still haven't found him.... the one that will accept me like this.

The description of yourself pretty much sums up my perfect woman. Except maybe for lacking a sense of humor. If you had mentioned that you loved being outdoors and on the water, I would have asked you to marry me right now!
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Old 03-12-2012, 07:16 PM
 
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2) Have no interest in ever having kids and will be turning 25 next month.. it's ok for me as I'm slowly waiting for all the eggs to die

5) But even though I'm different and like stated will never bear a child, I want to get married one day (I just want a husband, not add someone else in the picture)
Could it be a geographic and cultural thing?

I know a woman who has been married for about 20 years and, to this day, she said there is no way she wanted kids. She is emphatic about this. Her husband felt the same way. They are both very independent, and get along fine. But they enjoy each other's love and companionship, without having kids in the picture.
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Old 03-12-2012, 07:19 PM
 
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In my experience it's a timing thing. When men are ready to get married they will often marry whoever is there at the moment that seems like a good idea. Sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn't, but a man could have the greatest woman in the world and if he's not ready he's not ready. This is why some men will date a great woman for years, not marry her, and when it finally ends he'll marry the first woman he meets. Timing is a big chunk of life.
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Old 03-12-2012, 07:51 PM
 
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In my experience it's a timing thing. When men are ready to get married they will often marry whoever is there at the moment that seems like a good idea. Sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn't, but a man could have the greatest woman in the world and if he's not ready he's not ready. This is why some men will date a great woman for years, not marry her, and when it finally ends he'll marry the first woman he meets. Timing is a big chunk of life.
Yeah they take a while to mature don't they??
The only exception is a male co-worker who got married last year at the age of only 23. He would tell us how he always wanted to get married.
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Old 03-12-2012, 08:32 PM
 
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What you need is someone at least 10 years and more realistically 15-20 years older than you are. You still have 2-3 more years to be considered young by someone old enough, and for some, your relative youth may be sufficient. I was similarly mediocre, and this strategy enabled me to get married to someone with whom I share many interests and am very compatible.

One thing you should focus on is how you want to be treated and what sort of behavior might be a deal-breaker for you. It is important to know what your limits are in a relationship. Also, you really need to be taking steps toward being self-sufficient and not just following your dreams. Whether you marry or not, you will need to take care of yourself financially.
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Old 03-13-2012, 06:35 AM
 
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I've heard that phrase on different sites. What exactly is it that they're looking for. Do I possess some qualities or not?

Things I do/don't do and qualities I might have or don't have
1) I don't really have too many characteristics of a house-wife (I'm useless when it comes to recipes or decorating/organizing the house but might hire a maid in the future, plus I can't use detergent nor do any heavy cleaning due to my allergies)
2) Have no interest in ever having kids and will be turning 25 next month.. it's ok for me as I'm slowly waiting for all the eggs to die
3) I'm focusing on finishing Turism & Travel management major (I'm paying for my courses)
4) I have plans on traveling to historical places, not staying home all day
5) But even though I'm different and like stated will never bear a child, I want to get married one day (I just want a husband, not add someone else in the picture)
6) I hardly ever dye my nails nor put make-up on (sometimes I wear the same clothes)
7) I'm sort of a bookish person and sometimes lack a sense of humor
8) Regarding my past: only an ex and that's about it but I think it's because I need to go out often

Or will many men still look for the woman with some household characteristics as well as one with nurturing urges towards kids?

Thing is I'm very different and it's probably gonna take me a while to find him. It's like they still want a woman that's kinda traditional in some roles. I don't fit them. I think that's why my ex bf never saw me as potential wife and so strung me along.

People in my family are getting married one by one and sometimes it makes me kinda upset that I still haven't found him.... the one that will accept me like this.
Yes you are marriage material but really only for your male counterpart, a man who doesn't want a traditional wife and doesn't mind paying a maid to do the housework, a man who would like to travel and never have a family.

You'll marry if you meet your counterpart. It doesn't seem as though it would be all that difficult because many men also never want to be fathers, and would enjoy traveling.
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