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Why do so many people feel that if they meet 'someone' they will not be lonely in life? of if they have kids they will not be lonely in life?
I feel that if you surround yourself with the right relationships within the property dynamics than you'll lower your odds of being alone.
However, being alone or being with others has no direct correlation with being lonely. There are plenty of people who are in 'relationships' who are very lonely / isolated. In fact some people I know who are married with kids are more lonely than they were when they were single and not dating.
I used to volunteer at a senior home and 90% of these people had kids who never came to visit them very often. They told me they were lonely....so having kids to prevent loneliness is also not a good strategy.
Understand the concept, remove the neediness common to so many and life life to the fullest.
Well, that's about as creepy as can be.
People having kids to care for them in old age or for body parts for siblings.
If someone's that needy, I'll avoid them like the plague.
Well, that's about as creepy as can be.
People having kids to care for them in old age or for body parts for siblings.
If someone's that needy, I'll avoid them like the plague.
people are in general scared to death of being alone...some will resort to anything to stop themselves from being alone....I was afraid too, I stayed in bad relationships way too long, until it happened to me and I found it was the best thing for me...Life is not necessarily lonely when you're alone. I find there's not enough hours in the day to do everything I want to do. I have plenty people around who are not close friends but I could count on them if anything happened and vice versa.
Some people like people... and they'd like someone to be close to them. And, yes, it's not ideal if you don't even like the person you're close with so hopefully you avoid that. Otherwise, I see nothing wrong with not wanting to be alone. I see nothing wrong with people needing other people.
i know of quite a few people who use this as a justification to get into bad relationships. have never quite understood it for the reasons you laid out; marriage and children can't prevent loneliness. any many cases they actually cause loneliness.
Before wife and I met, we'd both been married twice before.......but that sure didn't stop us from wanting to meet the "Right" person and marry again! Neither of us liked single life at all, but going into our 50's, we really wanted to meet a "great fit" and got BOTH when we met......"Right" and "great fit"! Neither of us had kids when we met and never did. We were both "marriage minded" when we met. That, in itself, REALLY helped out our relationship when we met as well.
What can I say, I know how to be with myself but it gets boring and lonesome after a while. It's hard for me to make excellent friends. Getting a girlfriend takes a lot of effort as does maintaining a strong relationship but it'd still be easier than making, say, three super close friends.
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