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Old 03-19-2012, 10:20 AM
 
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Life without a serious SO is so much less fulfilling than life with one. I'm an extrovert with lots of friends and activities, but having that special person to share your life with is better. After my DH died, I thought I didn't want / need another love in my life, but when that first post-husband romance bloomed, I realized that I missed that close, intimate connection with another human. Ultimately that didn't work out and I got my heart broken, but it made me realize that my life is better when I have someone to love and who loves me back. Without that, no matter how many friends I'm surrounded by, I feel "lonely."
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Old 03-19-2012, 10:21 AM
 
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Life without a serious SO is so much less fulfilling than life with one. I'm an extrovert with lots of friends and activities, but having that special person to share your life with is better. After my DH died, I thought I didn't want / need another love in my life, but when that first post-husband romance bloomed, I realized that I missed that close, intimate connection with another human. Ultimately that didn't work out and I got my heart broken, but it made me realize that my life is better when I have someone to love and who loves me back. Without that, no matter how many friends I'm surrounded by, I feel "lonely."
Your opinion.
I have a very fulfilling life with no SO.
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Old 03-19-2012, 11:42 AM
 
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Why do so many people feel that if they meet 'someone' they will not be lonely in life? of if they have kids they will not be lonely in life?

I feel that if you surround yourself with the right relationships within the property dynamics than you'll lower your odds of being alone.

However, being alone or being with others has no direct correlation with being lonely. There are plenty of people who are in 'relationships' who are very lonely / isolated. In fact some people I know who are married with kids are more lonely than they were when they were single and not dating.

I used to volunteer at a senior home and 90% of these people had kids who never came to visit them very often. They told me they were lonely....so having kids to prevent loneliness is also not a good strategy.

Understand the concept, remove the neediness common to so many and life life to the fullest.

Keep'n it real!
Agree. And, I find that the most fascinating people I have ever met, regardless of age or gender, are those who have the noble goal of doing good works for their fellow human beings. The best cure for loneliness is to

1) Get out of the house
2)Take a good look around and remember how much you have been given
3)Give a smile, a word of encouragement or a helping hand to a person in true need.

It will fulfill a person in a way that dreamily gazing into someone else's eyes over candlelight, never can.
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Old 03-19-2012, 12:54 PM
 
Location: Mammoth Lakes, CA
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For anyone stupid enough to have kids so "they won't be lonely when they're old..." they need to visit a convalescent home or assisted care facility. The vast majorty of those poor old folks have children and few ever visit. In the home where my mom lives, there are usually 100 old people at the lunch table. They always say to me, "You're the only child of anyone in here who ever visits anyone in here."

Sad, but true.
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